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Would You Tell Her?
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So, I split up with my long term boyfriend a few months ago. Over that time we have been seeing and talking to each other a lot, and on a number of occasions sleeping together. It's fair to say I'm not over him and he has said a lot of things that would have me believe he is considering a reconciliation.
A couple of months ago I asked if he was seeing anyone else, to which he replied he had been out with someone a couple of times. I didn't ask anything else until a little over a week ago when he said he was no longer seeing her. Following my suspicions from things I had seen he admitted this weekend that we was in fact in a relationship with this person still.
The whole of last week he was almost acting as though we were still a couple with the things he was saying, bringing me little presents and asking to see me on a number of occasions.
I'm obviously very hurt that he's completely lied to me when he knows where my feelings still lie and a huge part of me wants to contact this other girl and let her know about what's been going on.
He and I have a lot of connections and it would be impossible to avoid him and others so for this reason I don't really want to start WW3 but I also don't want him to think he can treat people like dirt and just get away with it.
I have told him I am considering telling her, which of course he has begged me not to and has asked me to let him end things with her in his own way but I'm a bit fed up of being mugged off and quite like him to feel the consequences of his actions.
What would you do?
So, I split up with my long term boyfriend a few months ago. Over that time we have been seeing and talking to each other a lot, and on a number of occasions sleeping together. It's fair to say I'm not over him and he has said a lot of things that would have me believe he is considering a reconciliation.
A couple of months ago I asked if he was seeing anyone else, to which he replied he had been out with someone a couple of times. I didn't ask anything else until a little over a week ago when he said he was no longer seeing her. Following my suspicions from things I had seen he admitted this weekend that we was in fact in a relationship with this person still.
The whole of last week he was almost acting as though we were still a couple with the things he was saying, bringing me little presents and asking to see me on a number of occasions.
I'm obviously very hurt that he's completely lied to me when he knows where my feelings still lie and a huge part of me wants to contact this other girl and let her know about what's been going on.
He and I have a lot of connections and it would be impossible to avoid him and others so for this reason I don't really want to start WW3 but I also don't want him to think he can treat people like dirt and just get away with it.
I have told him I am considering telling her, which of course he has begged me not to and has asked me to let him end things with her in his own way but I'm a bit fed up of being mugged off and quite like him to feel the consequences of his actions.
What would you do?
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.He's done it to her honey, who's to say he's not done/ going to do it to you. It might be love now but think a year down the line when he's slept with her/ the whole county behind your back.
Protect yourself...if you feel the need to cheat in a relationship...it's not a relationship, and it's unfair on both parties.
Protect yourself...if you feel the need to cheat in a relationship...it's not a relationship, and it's unfair on both parties.