constantly reminded of my inferiority

[mountainboo]

I love my husband dearly. However, I stopped working 3 years ago in order to stay at home and be a full time mother at the request of my husband; so that he could be the bread winner. It worked well for a while and then I decided that I wanted to get a decent education so that eventually I could earn a good wage for us. Whilst my husband has reluctantly supported some of my endeavours financially (which I am very grateful for), he has never offered any emotional support. To the contrary in fact, he sees my efforts as pointless and in his opinion too late in life (I'm 30). I can ignore this negativity as pursuing an education is something that I love doing. What I am finding increasingly harder to cope with is the way he constantly reminds me that he pays for everything; house, bills, furniture, etc and that I have no money.
I have been called a sponger and a parasite in the not too distant past. I feel terrible and very inferior in the relationship. I loathe the fact that I have no money. My son starts school next September, I'm doing a degree and I would happily get a part-time job but I can't do that until next September.
I would hate to portray myself as ungrateful, as I am definitely not.

[SeaJayPea]

You're not ungrateful - he is.

'nuff said.

[goldenbolls]

its your husbands duty to provide for you and your son, what are you studying ? will it definately lead to a good job? maybe he thinks it wont, many students are finding it difficult to get work now after gaining degrees, maybe he wants you to get into something that is going to put money on table. he has no right to call you a sponger etc, i have a feeling he is under pressure himself, these are hard times !!! also are there any underlying factors in this relationship ? at the end of the day you need to sit down and confront him and tell him you are not a sponger or parasite, these are very hurtfull and nasty words, i would tell him you will leave if her doent start treating you and your son with respect !!!!

[NoMercy]

Tell him you've had enough of his crab and if he doesn't change his attitude completely then he can find a new skivvy and you'll be looking for someone more deserving.

What a monumental t055er.

[pizza]

Sorry mountainboo I was disgusted my your husbands attitude and feel very,very sorry for you,you obviously love your husband and he should feel ashamed of his attitude.
You should feel very proud of yourself doing a degree, running a house and looking after a small child without any emotional support .
I wonder has he been out of his cave very long !!
This guy you married sounds like a narrow minded, self centred pig to be reminding you he pays for everything !! disgusting,he just doesnt want to achieving anything that will make him feel threatened.
I honestly couldnt live with a man like this,I would recommend writing him a letter as to how he is making you feel and if possible stay with family or friends for a day or two and make him realise you are a person in your own right. Good luck with your degree and keep in touch with us all on here x