Accused of being a bully

[4getmenot]

A while ago we had a lady join us in our office from another area as she wasnt getting her job done under no suprevision at another office. Me and my colleague starting doing alot of her work to get all her files up to date so she wasnt getting more behind, we would always tell her if there was anything she needed then she only had to ask. She still couldnt do her job properly after being in the office for months and we were told to spot check on her work. She then started having meeting with bosses to try and sort her issues out and giving her deadlines for things. We still picked up alot of her whilst this was going on. She then went of sick with depression for a while, and now big bosses have given her a home visit and she has said she cant come back to our office because we are bullying her!! well I am quite upset that she has said that after all the help we have given her.

[4getmenot]

joko believe me although it wasnt my work and i was doing alot of overtime i was nice, probably even a pushover doing it for her, so you can see why this has upset me. People have turned this around to be a question about mental health.

[rowanwitch]

sounds an awful thing to do but I think you and your colleague need to consider formally complaining about her malicious accusation... and make a counter issue.... you need to cover your backs... I suspect she will then withdraw her complaint. I've worked with people like that before and actually that poor me...can't cope strategy is a form of bullying in itself as it creates doubt and bad feelings in the person it is targetted at... It is a more subtle form of attack but an attack all the same...

[NOX]

It's a very difficult situation and i agree with Rowan that you are being attacked for trying to be helpful, however the problem with mental health issues is that the kindest action is twisted and turned around in your head until it becomes somthing entirely different so I think this lady is just unable to see thigns clearly at the moment and thats understandable too.
You were kind and helped her with her workload, she may see that as you seeing that she can't cope and that kindness then becomes a critisism if you follow.
I do think though that you need to get something down on paper to chart every step of what's happened to safeguard yourself.

[4getmenot]

i wouldnt want to go down that route and cause bad feeling though. Another lady had been off for months with same thing. She came back other week, and people were coming up saying 'she hasnt even said hello' i said well have you said hello to her' so i went into her said 'hello and welcome back' she text me that night thanking me.

[cathfromsaron]

storytelling! instead of saying 'ok i can't cope' let's blame other people!

what a smack in the face!

state your case and keep a list of all you have done to help!

(((hugs)))

[4getmenot]

i may keep a list just incase. As i said shes a lovely lady i just wish she'd admit she cant do it, i couldnt ever go to a job that i couldnt do.