Moral Dilemma..??

[oatcake]

Situation..
Boy meets girl. Girl is married. Boy sees girl behind husbands back. Boy falls for girl.. Girl keeps her distance but stays in touch with boy. Girl meets 2nd boy. Girl sees 2nd boy behind husbands back. Girl tells husband about 2nd boy. Husband kills himself. 1st Boy doesn't know why?? Girl tells 1st boy about husband and 2nd boy.. Girl stays with 2nd boy but doesn't trust him and wants to stay in touch with 1st boy.. What does 1st boy do??

[DTCwordfan]

keep taking the bran

[happyone2]

We are taking too lightly the suicide of the husband.............. this woman has disrupted the lives of 3 men ............ does she have mental health issues ?? or do you ??

Seriously.............

Lets step back and question the dynamics in this 4 sided relationship and the pivotal person ie the lady involved......... so may questions ??

How does she deal with the death of her husband......???

[oatcake]

As you may have gathered here I am boy 1 in this situation. I'm having to come to terms with.. A) Her husband took his own life and .. B) She was and still is in a relationship with boy B that I knew nothing about .. I'm stuck in a void of trying to hate her for what she's done and leaving her to wallow in the mess she's caused herself but my feelings are that strong for her I can't walk away. She feels she owes it to boy b to stay with him but clearly it's not a relationship that's going to last and she will need someone to be there for her when the inevitable does happen. I wish I could turn my feelings off but I can't Yes I know it was wrong to start an affair with a married woman in the first place but we all make mistakes. She is a weak woman but I am guilty of being just as weak also..

[chelle7272]

And what exactly does she feels she owes to you - or to her husband, never mind boy b!
i would say she does not need anyone there for her as it's high time she took responsibility for herself.
No it's not easy to walk away and you can't turn feelings off, but you CAN be realistic and you CAN protect yourself.
You know that walking away from her is really the best option.
You acknowledge you have been weak, now start being strong.

[oatcake]

Your right, I should move on and forget the whole thing :-(