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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.I'm so sorry you find yourself in this situation. It's one thing to try and keep it amicable and away from the lawyers but will he cheat on you a second time by not disclosing his full income if he's going to have a second home and relationship to support? He might find himself under increasing financial pressure which reflects adversely on you. You will certainly be entitled to child support until your youngest child reaches 18. I'd be inclined to get a consultation with a lawyer anyway, if only to protect yourself and your children.
Sorry to have to say it, but you must lawyer up. He may seem reasonable, but his financial assistance will probably not reflect your full rights in law and it allows him to keep control over your situation. Going it alone is fine for young couples with no children, who, after a couple of years of marriage realise they've made a mistake. You have invested 28 years of your life, had three children and made a home. I fear you will underestimate just how much this is worth financially- a lawyer won't! Take care and good luck to you.
Just wanted to add a bit of support for you lacuna. I think you should be very proud of the practical way you are handling this situation - you are a mature and independent woman who has a right not to be beholden to anyone, far less someone close who has let you down tremendously. You too have worked hard these years, and been a pivotal part of the team which has got you both to where you are in life. Don't sell yourself (or your kids) short.
Once this is sorted you can shake this mess out of your hair and move forward, to live for yourself!
Don't forget the pension, that he's been paying into for X amount of years, you have probably taken time out to look after your children during the last 28 years and you will end up with a state pension and that's if you are lucky. You must take his pension into account. It sounds harsh but don't fall for the the sobbing! Looking forward to hearing how you are getting on. Lots of Luck and Strengthxx