Renewing your wedding vows?

[Teddy_boy]

A good idea in your opinion?
Or a feeble attempt to place a veneer of normality over things?
I ask this because we have been invited to a ceremony for my sisters renewal to her nomark husband (I only say this because of the hurt and torment he has caused her over the last 10 years).
Should i say something or just go with the flow ?

[Gavmacp]

A friend once said to me that as I did not say anything when I heard racist comments I was as bad as the people that said the comment. It made me stand back and think. There are times when we must stand up and be counted. You could be cowardly (like me) and pretend just to be ill on the day.

[jackthehat]

If the couple concerned want to re-affirm their commitment to their wedding vows, I suppose it's up to them. And at least 10 years is a longer gap than the 2 years a lot of 'slebs seem to let pass these days...

Have you never mentioned how you feel to your sister?

If you can't go with good grace and fully participate in the day, I would stay away.

DTH?

[Teddy_boy]

My sister knows my views.

[jno]

if your sister can stand it, I suppose you can (no outsider ever knows what goes on in a marriage).

But if you think it's all a con, stay home.

[Teddy_boy]

I may be ill that week.

[LoftyLottie]

I find it a really strange thing to do. But each to his own I suppose. I got married in a registry office and can't remember the ceremony in any way or what 'vows' I made. Sometimes I think people do it just for an excuse for a party.

[cazzz1975]

some people have good marriages, sometimes there is no veneer of normality needed.

they obviously love each other in order to go through it.

[Teddy_boy]

You could be right .

[RATTER15]

So what is Renewing their wedding vows actually going to achieve? sounds like nonsense to me. Cant they just make these promises to each other?

[jno]

Ratter, doing it in the sight of the world is a public affirmation rather than a private one. Same reason people invite other people to their weddings in the first place.

[annadomino]

I am with LL on this one, excuse for a party, and dressing up like a bride, not a pretty sight in some cases.

[Caran]

I've never really understood renewing your vows, is it just on a "Spiritual" level or is it a legal thing. If you divorce later do you have to do that twice as well?

[anneasquith]

go with the flow :)

[Teddy_boy]

Anything for a quiet life.

[LoftyLottie]

LOL at Caran and her two divorces idea!!

[LoftyLottie]

It's not a legal thing Caran.

Can you renew your vows in a registry office or another non religious venue?