What rights does my ex's mother have to my son?

[legohouse]

okay here's the thing... my aunt said something to me the other day and its got me worrying


went i had my son my ex's mum said that she was trying for a baby but now that she has a grandson... she don't need to have one.

she sees my son went she likes... and a lot of the time its every week..
she takes him out by herself and she has had him over night once or twice..

went i drop my son off the other day my aunt said that i should pull back from her as she could be noting things i say and do. so that she can get my son to live with her.

can she take my son from me? even though my son's father's not on the birth certificate

please help me

[wildwood]

On the basis on what you've said here, your aunt seems to be stirring, your ex's mum seems to be displaying normal grandmother's emotions.

Have you ever had any reason yourself to suspect she has such motives?

[ladybirder]

Why is this in Animals and Nature?

[cathfromsaron]

it wasn't when i replied earlier! x

[RATTER15]

No she can't!!

[bednobs]

why isn't the dad on the BC? is it because there is some doubt about who the father is? If the boy likes spending time with his nan, why not?

[espookid]

He is not on the birth certificate so he doesn't have to pay child support ,but if he isn't then what rights can his mother possibly have to the boy !
Tell the cpa that he is the father and see if his mother still wants to see you !

[NOX]

At the moment it all sounds pretty normal to me, she has a grandchild who she obviously loves, you and she clearly have a normal relationship in that you are both acting like adults etc- the thing that seems awry to me is the aunt's interferance- I would be careful of her- she sounds as though she's stirrign the pot due to a hidden agenda of her own.
I'd just carry on as you are if I were you and see what happens, as she has no automatic rights whether your ex is named on the birth certificate or not- and whether he is, is entirely up to you two, lots of people have only one parent named on theirs for all sorts of reasons, so don't worry just enjoy your child and continue to let him and encourage him to have a good relationship with his grandmother, you are doing absolutely the right thing.

[maggiebee]

Is your aunt just stirring it a bit?
Sounds like your boy's gran just loves having him around and is acting just as a normal gran would.
On the legal side, she has no rights to him, despite who his father is.

[joko]

would she have any sort of 'case' against you if she was?

such as are you a drug addict? a prostitute? a violent thug? do you neglect him? is he malnourished and dirty etc etc?

unless she has some kind of reason, like above, there is no reason to suspect she would try to take your son - no court in the land would just give him to her just because she thinks shed be a better carer...

[boxtops]

Unless you are seen as an unfit mother, I don't see how the authorities could possibly take him from you and hand him to his grandmother.