Quandry about inviting people in

[Eve]

Been pondering this a bit lately. I have recently (few months ago) had some new neighbours move in.

They are lovely and have been great helping me when I had a boiler leak and part of the bathroom ceiling fell in and usually when I knock on I'm invited in for a cuppa and often cake and they've brought me leftover food round before now.

I feel bad that I don't feel quite so open about my place. They have obviously been in for the ceiling (landlord paying for him to do the work), but usually both him and his wife, but at other times when it's just him that knocks on I feel a bit mean not inviting him in.

I think part of the problem is he tends to knock on later at night, as late as after 10pm with some of the ceiling work, and by that point I'm usually in my night stuff and I'd feel uncomfortable sitting with a guy I actually don't know very well in my nightstuff at that time. I obviously put a dressing gown on to answer the door.

He just knocked on not long ago and I felt really bad him standing there as it was raining but would have felt awkward inviting him in at this time of night in my nightwear. I'm also not keen on answering the door later evening as I live on my own and in a not great area though at least I can usually see who it is else I wouldn't open it.

So I was looking for views really, whether I'm being rude/mean by not inviting him in when they've been so nice to me or whether it's justified. I'm going to get some nice cake/biscuits to take round generally or when next invited in for a cuppa at least.

[Craftypig]

Maybe all that talk of arthritis and gallbladder issue's turns him on....

[Eve]

Ewwwwwwww haha! His wife is lovely! Better than me in my winter dressing gown looking like a big pink fluffy whale :)

[Ann]

You can't be too careful Jenna - remember what happened to poor Jo Yeates this time last year. Maybe he is kind and genuine but its wise to keep him out unless his wife comes round too.

[rozia]

Jenna, please don't open the door to anyone unless you are expecting them, look what happened to poor young Jo Yates, she trusted her neighbour, we all do, and what he did to her was sadistic. Maybe now its time not stop trusting people so easily. your neighbour may be genuinely coming round to help, but its late and you don't know him that well, you don't know where they come from? why they moved here, their history etc.....please keep safe, your life is in your hands, lets keep it that way, i have known my neighbours for years and years, but i wont open the door to them, not even now, i look through window, and tell them my hubby took the key, he'll be back in a bit, come back then, they can wait all they like, he don't come back until early morning lol

[rozia]

ann, our posts must have missed each other by seconds.