Should men wear jewellery?

[mario_hunter]

I am 21 year old guy who has always wanted to wear jewellery like a chain, rings, bracelet and maybe even an earring. However I have very old-fashioned parents (who I still live with) and when I dared to wear a necklace in front of them today (that I had to PRETEND I had been given :-P) they said it looked daft and it didn't look right on me. So I took it off. It's just a plain medium sized men's gold chain which I had on under my t-shirt. How can I go about being more confident and wearing what I like and not worrying what parents and others will think? Are people likely to laugh at me or comment on me wearing jewellery as have never worn anything like that before.

[noxlumos]

Nothing wrong with men wearing jewellery as long as it is simple and not too "blingy". What you described sounded fine.I am a 45 year old man and wear chains, earring, rings bracelet as and when I feel like it, ( but not all together as I think a lot of jewellry looks cheap and flash). Just relax and realise that your parents will probably never like jewellry on a man, but that's their choice and their perogative. It does NOT mean that everyone else agrees with them. Wear jewellry if it pleases YOU. No-one will laugh, most men own and /or wear some jewellery, so enjoy yourself and just stay happy with who you are and what YOUR choices are and don't get into too much of a dialogue with them about it.

[Rock'n'Roll]

depends on what your classing as jewellery. I've worn a silver St Christopher for 40 yrs and gold rings on my cygnet fingers for years,although I no longer wear rings. Men have worn 'dog tag' bracelets for ages. Can't say I like earrings on guys,but that's just me. Doesn't sound to me as if your going too far,not as if your asking to wear a locket. Doesn't your dad wear a ring,a lot of men do. You could always just start by wearing just a ring

[electricblue]

Some jewellery id say is fine but for goodness sake DO NOT do a 'lotto lout'!

[Ethel]

I'm sorry but at 21 you should be dressing to please yourself as long as you are not bringing total embarrassment to the family home.

It is possible to be respectful to your parents and be yourself.

Continue to wear the chain if you wish. If your parents comment, don't react. Just tell them calmy and politely that it is your chain and your choice to wear it. Look around you. Men and women your age, younger and older, are displaying tatoos, piercings in very odd places, startling hair colours, and all sorts of weird and wonderful clothes and make up.

Just remember that people are too worried and conscience of themselves to even notice you.

When I look back at myself as a young woman I cringe at the outfits and jewellery I used to wear. So embarrassing in hindsight. But I would not have missed a minute of it.

Enjoy your life.

[steviep165]

if your not into the heavy gangsta bling or the nasty charver cheap gold then i suggest keeping it simple and stylish. i wear 2 silver rings. one onr the middle finger of my left hand and one on the ring finger of my right. looks ok 2 me, although the other half insists that men shouldnt wear rings unless married. bizarrely enough, i ignore her!

[n00dles]

I go along with all the above on this m_h....

More is less.......(or should that be less is more lol)

If you don't overdo it, they can't call you "Medallion man"
(given to guys with shirts opened to the waist, various chains around their necks, with rings and bracelets on too!)

Good luck ☺ xXx

[Englishbird]

I was about 21/22 when I realised my parents were people!! And come with all the infallibility's of 'people'. Just because they have an opinion on something, doesn't make them right. I love my parents a lot, and they're fantastic people, but they don't have all the answers and they may be right on a lot of things, but certainly not on everything. And even the fact that I can say they're right on a lot of things, makes them exceptional.

Going against your parents, doesn't make you wrong, or mean you love or trust them any less, and maybe they need to be told that. You have one chance at your life, and you have to live it the way you see fit. If your parents have done their 'job' you will have a good, fair view on the world, and they have to trust you now to live your life the right way - being the way that you want to live it.

I'm not exactly 'old' i'm 30, but if I had the last 15 years over, the only thing I would change is my self confidence. the older I get, the more I feel comfortable in my own skin. What other people think really doesn't matter. They have their lives, and you have yours. I know, more than i can explain, that that is easier said than done.

But sweety, you haven't hurt anyone, you haven't stolen anything, is wearing your chain really going to affect anyone elses life? Sometimes it's parents that need to be taught. x

[bloaterbum]

wear what the heck you likke chap and blow the masses (Not literall)y

[Ms.Hijinx]

why are you still living at home at 21 and being dictated to? I bet the chain looked great you wear what you like and move out and start your own life. lots of luck.

[jiggy-gb]

Do you think it looks good mario? If so, to hell with everyone else, including your parents! You're young, enjoy yourself, go your own way and forget about other people. Be yourself and have fun before you get too old! :o) x

[laurence2]

Yes, if you want to look like a complete W****r, or a gypsy.

ABSOLUTELY NOT.

[Jed]

no. never. ever.

[les saisies]

Why don't you grow up and move into a place of your own?

Then you can please yourself what you do/wear etc as it obviously bothers you what your parents say.

[whiffey]

Are you talking bling over a hairy chest with white socks and slip-on shoes ? Do you sniff constantly and drink "pint o lager mate"

I have a magnetic bracelet and wear Chanel No 5.

Do what you like mate, good luck to you !!

[R0M41N5]

listen to englishgirl. i dont wear jewellery, had an ear ring in at 15, but that was because my dad said i couldnt.
i find now in my older years (38) rings and necklaces look sound, as long as it ent to fancy
the necklace you mention sounds perfect.

i think your parents bring you up in the best and safest ways they can but when you turn 16 you should start to think about flying the nest by the time your 21. and as for confidence you had the confidence to write this email and put it online for billions to read. learn something from that and look at all your positive replys. all the best

[rubysapphy]

You should follow your instincts and where whatever makes you happy. Don't waste you money on poor quality, though!....
If your parents continue have an influence and you feel uncomfortable, you could save up your money for a good quailty watch which would give you pleasure and they wouldn't consider it to be ostentatious.