bored

[tradey]

hiya,well i had a good job been there for three years then in 2003 i found out i was 25wks pregrant, id been having periods not put any weight on,felt abit fed up so desided to go to the docors,we nearly died when we found out,we have two great kids,21 and 16 then out of the blue comes along this one.i had to give up working my hubby works 4 on 4 off and she would have to go nursary all day and i dont think its fair,shes 2 in december and im getting really fed up theres only so much you can do i a day we go park swimming shopping libary,im hoping that after xmas she starts playgroup then i may feel better.

[Gathorne]

Sorry you're feeling so bored. Looking after children may take up lots of time but it hardly uses your whole brain!

I've met lots of new friends through the things i do with my 2 little ones though - maybe you could ask the next interesting mum you meet for coffee. We also started a book group with a group of us because it's so easy to not bother going out when you're tired, but having a regular once a month meeting means we all make the effort. I even go to the pub sometimes with them which has really made me feel human again. You'll be surprised how many feel like you hopefully you'll meet some mums you like.

[kick3m0n]

seek out your nearest mothers and toddlers group, where you can meet lots of different mums, as wellas lettign yoru littel one socialise and friendships will blossom for both of you. Play dates (sorry, hideously US expression) are good too, especially in the long winter months, and kids love playing with other childrens toys/pets or in a new garden while you and mum have a chat. Most local councils have gym classes for little ones (usually called gym monkeys. gym bunnies or similar) and again, you get some free tiem while they're tumbling around to enjoy a good book (in between enthusiastic cheers for their efforts!). Also look out for local music groups run for toddlers - great fun, and alot of libraries do "bounce and tickle" story and song sessions for pre-schoolers too. also, many sports centres and cafes have soft play areas for wee ones, so a few of you mums and todds could head down to your nearest one and let the kids burn off some energy for an hour (so useful on a wet stuck-inddors day). If you want to get your brain in gear again, why not think about doing an OU course when she starts playgroup or do some volunteer work? You sound a bit down I must admit. my wee guy has just turned 2 and we have a great time....I am so glad I chose not to return to work (and lucky I didn't have to), and I know looking after him is the best job I've ever had. Of course, I realise you were all set to re-start your career having completed your child rearing, so this enforced full time mum situation must be hard to adjust to, but I would try to reach out and socialise more with other mums. You may find you're not alone in how you feel, and maybe get some new interests or friends to help fill your days. Good luck.

[hairylemon]

Run that bu me again there...u didnt stop having periods..Holy God, so even if u are having periods u could be pregnant?? HOW??

[smudge]

My friend had periods well into the fifth month of her pregnancy. It's not actually a period as such, but not sure of the medical term for it. Her baby is now 38 with children of her own!

[tradey]

thankyou to everyone who helped me i feel much better today,