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Hey all, guess this is one for makes but females feel free to step up!
An ex of mine from 2 years ago contacted me recently. He's moved into a new home n wanted me to go n see it. I went along to see it, we hung out all night together....watching tv....banter & I ended up staying at his, in the same bed and we just cuddled all night long in our underwear. No sexy time took place & he just wanted to cuddle me. We spoke loads about everything really n it was a very relaxed evening. No awkwardness. Since the weekend we've shared a few txts but I can't allow myself to continually txt him.
What was/is the point of it?? What do I do now?
Thanks guys x
An ex of mine from 2 years ago contacted me recently. He's moved into a new home n wanted me to go n see it. I went along to see it, we hung out all night together....watching tv....banter & I ended up staying at his, in the same bed and we just cuddled all night long in our underwear. No sexy time took place & he just wanted to cuddle me. We spoke loads about everything really n it was a very relaxed evening. No awkwardness. Since the weekend we've shared a few txts but I can't allow myself to continually txt him.
What was/is the point of it?? What do I do now?
Thanks guys x
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.My advice regarding getting back with exes is this:
They are an 'ex' because you finished for some reason. If that 'reason' is still there - i.e. you/they/the circumstances haven't changed much, then you will just end up finishing again at some point for roughly or exactly the same reason. It will ultimately be a waste of both your time. This is what you tell them when you say you don't want to take things further.
If on the other hand things have changed and you do want to have another go then make sure you take things slowly - enjoy it!
They are an 'ex' because you finished for some reason. If that 'reason' is still there - i.e. you/they/the circumstances haven't changed much, then you will just end up finishing again at some point for roughly or exactly the same reason. It will ultimately be a waste of both your time. This is what you tell them when you say you don't want to take things further.
If on the other hand things have changed and you do want to have another go then make sure you take things slowly - enjoy it!
Thank you so much guys for taking time to respond. I guess after that night, as lovely as it was to hang out n we cleared up something that was left unsaid.....it did leave me kinda confused! I'm not male n just was trying to work out why a guy would do that.....if it was about sex I could understand!
Ha ha 'in just your crackers'....never heard that before! I completely understand what youre saying but in my defence it was never my intention to stay....and I def was not having sex with him n I made that clear. He was fine with it and said he just wanted to cuddle me.....it's messed with my head a little I won't lie. If it was about seeing a female in her undies then I'm sure he could've called many-a-girl....a very good looking guy. Really n truly I just wasn't sure what it was all about, if anything at all n wanted some opinions!
I do thank you guys and I will be taking your advice. I'm not calling, texting or initiating any contact. What do I do if it happens again? Eek! For now I think I'll just take it for what it was....a night of cuddles which were very nice. X
I do thank you guys and I will be taking your advice. I'm not calling, texting or initiating any contact. What do I do if it happens again? Eek! For now I think I'll just take it for what it was....a night of cuddles which were very nice. X
Sometimes, some of us just want to be nice for the moment and there is nothing more that is expected. Lots of sentiment with ex's and we can remember the good times as well as the bad times. For the good memories, being nice with an ex and nothing more or expected is the whole exercise in itself. I may be talking for a minority of men though.
I was in Montpellier one time, and I was at the bus stop talking to a girl. We bumped into each other 30 minutes later and another quick chat. we said bye and made our way. I turned back and asked her if she wanted to have dinner with as I was going to have dinner anyway. She declined. So we parted, but she turned round and said "why not"? We had a lovely dinner and more conversation and then we said our goodbyes. It was for the moment because the initial conversation was good. Again, there may be no future but for the present it can be perfect. Now I feel sentimental again.
I was in Montpellier one time, and I was at the bus stop talking to a girl. We bumped into each other 30 minutes later and another quick chat. we said bye and made our way. I turned back and asked her if she wanted to have dinner with as I was going to have dinner anyway. She declined. So we parted, but she turned round and said "why not"? We had a lovely dinner and more conversation and then we said our goodbyes. It was for the moment because the initial conversation was good. Again, there may be no future but for the present it can be perfect. Now I feel sentimental again.