Where to meet someone descent?

[bartholomew]

Can you suggest where I can meet the second half?

I can't believe that the only way to find someone
is to go to pubs and bars and discos
( I can't anyway as I am allergic to nicotine)
There must be other ways to get to know someone.

[nicnic]

It's difficult, but I hate bars and pubs too. Try doing a course maybe, there's always the sports or other clubs. I'm sure there will be something to suit your interests somewhere. Also, there is always internet dating, I wouldn't worry about the 'stigma' about it, I think more people do it than let on. Meeting someone in a club or something doesn't allow for the sort of conversation that will let you get to know someone. That's just my ideas though!

[Octavius]

Anywhere! You just have to make the effort to go up and speak to someone you like. In a supermarket, at a bus stop, in the library, in a cafe, on the train. I didn't meet any of my (long-term!) girlfriends in clubs or bars.

[Pinotage]

Ask at your local book shop if they have a book group. I'm in one at Ottakers and all the others are women.

Evening classes are an other popular route - check with your library.

Join as many local societies as you can.

Some supermarkets with late night shopping are supposedly another good source.

[thebigchill]

I bet youre looking forward to the smoking ban then! I second pinotage, evening classes can be a great way to meet people, friends of mine have had success in dance classes, salsa and ballroom and the like. Good luck!

[rampart]

I think you have to repeatedly put yourself in an environment where you are likely to have something in common with your potential second half. For example, volunteer work, a course at a university, church. This at least gives you a place to start with one thing in common! At the pub, it is entirely random except for alcohol.

As for volunteer work, keep in mind the ratios are in your favour. Quite often, women volunteer than men.

[gucciman]

join www.faceparty.com put some nice pics on and a witty profile. get chatting/messaging loads of people you like the sound/look of and then after a while the dates will start flooding in. i met 30 girls off there in 12 months and am now engaged to a girl off there and were getting wed next yr.