Awkward mutual friends from ex situation. Please help

[Jenarry]

I'll keep this brief but i met some people during a 5 yr relationship with my ex. we have been split up for 3 yrs now and the usual division of friends has happened. it wasn't obvious in the early days but a couple of the female friends (like i once did)still think the ex is Mr fantastic especially one who has got her sights set on him think.
This isn't an issue for me I just hope she knows what she's letting herself in for. Anyway the question is i'm still friends with the people i met through my ex and still go to certain get togethers but unfortunately it seems to depend on who is doing the arranging on whether i get an invite such as the get together next week. I'm not sure what the deal is but the woman arranging it hasn't invited me for whatever reason(she obviously has some issue with me) but a couple of the other people going have said me and my boyfriend should come along and they would love to see us so I feel a bit torn.
it would probably just take a text or call to the person in question and we would be invited but it just doesn't feel right to me.
This get together has been arranged for ages and I think the ex was originally going to be there but he has been out of the country with work and it would have been known for a few wks he wouldn't be able to make it.
we had a awful break up,he lied and cheated etc and not paid any child support in 3 yrs but i never talk about him or bad mouth him to these mutual friends.
my best friend who also met all these people thru my ex is going and she thinks i should have more confidence and just come along..what do think..yes or no?...

[Jenarry]

oops maybe not so brief.

[ladybirder]

I'd never go where I wasn't invited.

[Jenarry]

Thats my feeling ladybirder but my bestfriend is very persuasive and she says everyone else would be made up to see us. My bestfriend also has the confidence (and cheek) to invite herself . I've asked my bf but he just says he'll go along with whatever decision I make...nice sentiment but no help with the dilemma!

[Brinjal]

Me neither.

[tinkerbell23]

I wouldnt go jenarry xx

[murraymints]

no...don't go !! Tinks what are you doing up at such an unearthly hour ?

[Prudie]

I wouldn't go uninvited either - why not get your best friend to ask the organiser if there was a reason you were left out and would it be OK if you came?

[Jenarry]

i made it sound as if my best friend was going uninvited herself but she is not she was invited ages ago. i just meant if she was in my shoes she would have the confidence to just come along.

[mrs_overall]

Don't go

[lady-janine]

don't think you should go.

[woofgang]

If it was me I would be making an effort to make some different friends and organising my own nights out etcet. You can then invite those old friends who you want and leave the rest out. Some of them don't sound so much like "friends" to me. If they are feeding back to your ex (it happens) wouldn't you rather it was about your busy social life and new mates?

[Robinia]

No I wouldn't go either, missing one occasion isn't such a big deal is it?
As for your friend having her sights set on your ex just let her get on with it and find out what kind of person he is (or isn't) for herself.

[Jenarry]

That's it decision made with all your help thankyou.I'm probably over thinking but it really doesn't feel right to go no matter how persuasive my best friend is. and i'm sure there will be other get togethers as someone has said.