Did Your Parents Have A Go About Your Weight

[bellazella]

On reflection my mother did, thought i was a size 14

[bellazella]

Talking about parents snags, did your mum or dad give you a hard time

[cazzz1975]

my sister takes steroids, she doesnt eat much food but she is a size 14

[Eve]

Yes, often! I remember the old phrase from when I was younger "if you can pinch an inch". Bit better now (more keep going) as I've lost quite a lot recently through being ill though I was never really huge - I did need to lose some but the comments been a longrunning general thing. I did (wo)man up and tell her I found it hurtful (especially after having an eating disorder) but not much of a change.

One which really hurt was saying I should go on a diet for my brother's wedding and pointing out I'd be photographed.

She's not a mean person though - she just came up and looked after me so well after an operation, just my weight is something she always seems to have had a thing about.

[ummmm]

Greedy pig Snags...

[snags]

No. They had a love of the doughnut too.

[B00]

There's something very disturbing about a child being criticised about anything, especially weight.

Horrible, horrible parenting!

[pdust]

my mam used to go on about my weight all the time..she said i was way too skinny....no amount of feeding me up worked.....

[ummmm]

Still lovely and slim now Pixi. I'm sure many people are envious :-)

[cazzz1975]

you are really tiny pixi, such an apt name!

[snags]

I was a really fussy eater as a child and always last to finish. My Dad used to sit next to me with a wooden spoon, and when I answered 'no' to his question of 'have you finished yet' he'd wallop me with it until I'd finished. I guess that is why I can never leave food on my plate now. Or CD's plate much to her annoyance!

[karenmac60]

Nope. My mum always told my sister and I we had lovely figures and she didn't know where we'd got them from. When I left home I did put on a bit of weight and my dad commented on it once, but I've made him pay for years now by asking when he's due. He takes it in his stride :)

[islasmum]

My mother was fine, and helped me lose some weight, but I was quite well built and strong in the old days, not really fat - my friend's mother was awful to my friend, and left her with a real complex about her weight, she wasn't fat, just well built, but her mother was like a beanpole, and couldn't see that my friend was similar to her father, who was tall and well built.

[andy-hughes]

My dad never pulled me down about my weight - just about everything, and I mean everything else!

I saw a psychologist in a drama offer this view - "Do you know how to create a psychotic personality? Constant criticism combined with a with drawal of affection ..."

I had a lucky escape it seems!

[rowanwitch]

Andy Hughes I know what you mean...constant comments, criticism and lack of any sort of affection

Now despite years of dieting and yoyoing between sizes (been a 10 now up to 24) everytime I've stopped I've put on more than I lost
My Medication makes me ravenous and affects insulin resistance apparently so fat is deposited more easily

I am really active with lots of hobbies I don't drive walk loads each week
might consider a gastric band if my GP is ok as now have a high enough BMI

[andy-hughes]

rowanwitch - as a dad with three daughters, I know just how sensitive the issue of weight is for women, especially in their teens, or after a baby.

My youngest duaghter is hyper-sensitive about her weight gain after her baby, so i do all i can to affirm her beauty, and I comment on her current losses - which she is achieving.

Seeing her face light up makes me wonder how any parent can not want to affirm their children as wonderful people.

[LoftyLottie]

My mother told me at 18 that I ought to lose some weight. I was probably a size 12 (at 5'10") I ended up a skinny size 10. I was a skinny child though. No parent should have a go at a child/teenager about weight.

Rowan, The worse thing I ever did was go on a strict faddy diet when I went up to a size 16 in my late 30's (I was 5'10") Had problems with my weight since. Once you start dieting on a strict basis your metabolism goes bananas. I did go back down to a 12/14 but immediately I ate properly I shot up to a size 18/20.

I am now a size 16/18 and have come to the conclusion that this is where I will stay and am happy with it.