Boyfriends friend tried it on with me, should i tell him?

[Joanne130]

My boyfriend has a friend he has known since childhood, last weekend we had a small party at ours, his friend followed me into the kitchen & touched me on the bum then put his arms around my waist, i immediately asked him what he thought he was doing & he laughed & said sorry i was only messing about, he had had a bit to drink but i know if my bf knew he would blow a fuse, should i tell him? i don't think his friend will do it again but is it being dishonest to my bf not telling him? i know it would cause an argument between them & i don't want any fuss

[Sqad]

gness......;-)

[joko]

has he got a girfriend? maybe he is so used to touching her bum that while drunk his hand just wandered...

similar thing happened to my boyfriend ... he was very drunk and is always putting his hand on my bum... he told me he had accidentally and absent mindedly touched this girls bum while we were at a party (i was there too) they were all standing in a row arms around each other singing, when it happened - and his hand had gone down behind her - and she went a bit weird saying 'im married etc, i dont think of you like that' he apologised profusely, but she wouldnt have it - he hadnt even realised he was doing it.

i totally believe him because he cannot stand this girl.
He has in the past said he thinks shes totally unattractive - she is nasty and bossy and drives them all mad - she thinks my boyfriend and his mates are her 'cubs' and treats them like shes their mother - haha!
but none of the others actually like her either...they only bother with her because of her boyfriend, who is their very old friend
if it was another girl i'd perhaps have been annoyed and maybe had a doubt - but this girl - no way...he said the very idea revolted him.


did he appear to be doing it with intent?
do you think he was actually trying it on, then changed to pretend he was kidding when he saw you werent into it? or was he just being a bit touchy feely and 'handsy' when drunk?
thing is hed have to be very stupid to do that while your fella was in the next room...

[gness]

Mind you Sqad, the thought of asking a medium if late OH had voyeuristic tendencies now appeals to my sense of humour.

[Joanne130]

joko i've never had any signs that he thought of me that way before, this kinda thing never usually happens to me i don't dress provacatively & am very average looking, think it must have just been the drink hopefully he will not remember he's even tried it on with me, he has no gf he is recently divorced

[Bambiagain]

I wouldn't give it another thought. You told him off, he was drunk anyway, there was no question of you taking him up on it. Telling your boyfriend would only cause unneccessary trouble.

[4getmenot]

take the boy to one side this weekend and tell him he should never try it on again. Record conversation secretly on phone as you have it as back up if he says you tried it on with him. If he does it again then tell your boyfriend.

[boxtops]

I'd just forget it. you know he was drunk. Ignore it.

[jno]

a one-off drunken pass can be safely ignored. If it ever happened again, though, naomi's advice makes sense.

[mrs.chappie]

I agree with everybody else.....forget it.

[JonnyBoy12]

It sounds like he has got good taste in girls, namely you, Joanne.

Welcome to AnswerBank, by the way, and if there is anything you need to know just ask. That is what we are all here for. We are all friendly and do not bite.

Whereabouts in the country are you, Joanne?

[Joanne130]

The south Johnny, no he's a womaniser i think he would try it on with anything with a pulse. Thanks for the welcome :)

[owdhamer]

A kick in the b_____ks works wonders.

[Joanne130]

owdhamer if he tried it again he would get just that :)

[JonnyBoy12]

From the South eh? Well, you know you old saying "If you are from the South you've got a big mouth." Not heard that one before?

That is not surprising as I have just made it up this minute. Crafty, eh?

Have fun on Answerbank; it is is the best website in the world.

[Smowball]

no dont tell him

[joggerjayne]

Don't say anything.

Just be flattered that the friend fancies you.