Difficult one for me. I remember standing behind someone smelling of urine and wondering why the family didn`t do something to help her. Was I pompous! Then my mother, the cleanest person you could meet, developed dementia and we couldn`t get her to wash or change her clothing. We and the team helping us tried everything but she was convinced she showered every morning and became very violent when we told her she was smelling. When people said that if she was their mother they would pick her up and put her in a bath I could have cried. How do you do that to a very strong, fit and violent woman?
But I did feel sorry for the neighbours she visited and the worshipers sitting next to her in church. In fact it was one of the reasons we had to put her into care. This once proud woman was filthy and smelly because of the dementia.
So, mixed views on this, but I could not have sat next to him, I`m afraid.