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Very interesting guys some really mixed feelings, it's a hard one but the reason I need to eventually have a heart to heart with my mum and explain that a. I cannot be as close with her anymore due to the dis functional relationship she has with my father is one thing, that b. I don't eve want to lay eyes on him again which only needs reiterated as she knows already, and... Also break it to her that I personally want to be distanced from my sister for as long as it takes for the bitch to wise up, will in all honesty probably break her heart, but I am actually going slightly insane with it all, am on anxiety pills etc too and needless to say my husband has given up on them and is nearly giving up on me means that drastic action needs to be taken, and this heart to heart will need to take place sooner than later....which as you can probably sense hasn't happened up till now as I didn't want to rock the boat, feel now the boat has capsized and nothing has been done about it yet, so I guess as my husband says I need to take action now before everything goes completely tits up! Aye with me and him I guess he means. Very hard but when the situation is coming in between you and your loved one, the message of how a unhappy you are needs to be urgently conveyed......I am waiting until after a big family function which is impending so that it doesn't mar it, but after that's done with - needless to say I am not going to it because of the above - then I will be saying my piece and its not going to be very nice for anyone but is something that has to be done............