One of my aquaintance's, but not friends.

[Jeza]

His spouse passed away just after Christmas. They had been married for over 30 years. He is now living with a young woman in the house he and his wife shared. It is less than 6 months. I realise life goes on, but to me it is too soon. I don't know what his kids think. What do you think?

[MarkRae]

Well said, Lynne.

[waterboatman]

It's his concern and nobody else's.

[WELSHYORKIE]

Jeza, people will think it is too soon and some will say go for it. I am in a similar position, although we don't live together, and I must say that in general peoples reactions have been positive. Life is for living - you only live once - and if I can make another person happy then why shouldn't I?. I still love my late wife as much as I ever did and will always do so. Maybe the gent in question feels the same.

[waterboatman]

Well said Welshie.

[Dee Sa]

sorry but its his business, nobody elses.

[boxtops]

I'm with Welshie - the new lady won't replace his wife, but it's a new companion. Good for him.

[chi-chi66]

It is his business, but people will always have opinions, good or bad.

[Hopkirk]

We have no idea how strong the bond was with his wife.

For instance I have been married over twenty two years, but if I never saw her again it wouldn't bother me. (and vice versa)

[emmie]

It's his business, however i reckon it's a bit soon, i'm still struggling after a number of years, so what do i know.

[emmie]

Hopkirk, then why stay married. I would hate someone to say that about me, and i certainly wouldn't say it about the man i was married to.

[Hopkirk]

Children

[rowanwitch]

Sometimes the person you lose leaves such a big hole if someone comes along that makes you feel a little less empty and lost it's possible to have that new relationship and I suspect it may help to offset the pain of the loss a little. by giving something new to absorb some of the empty time .. It can also be that because you are aware of the space you subconsciously look to fill it... I've known bereaved folk develop obsessions for new hobbies, travel, anything rather than deal all the time with the loss.. A good thing if you find someone who understands and can deal with the aftermath of such loss in a new partner

[emmie]

would rather leave with them than stay. I know from personal experience how unhappy children can be when they know parents are not happy together.