Now I know I am going to sound like I am a sex addict, but me and my partner have recently been having sex twice a day every day, for the past week and a half, before he made me come nearly every time but now it just isnt happening, I was wondering if anyone had this and if you have a lot of sex can it make it harder for the woman to orgasm?? We have vowed not to have sex as much now!!!
Not really an answer, but just chucking it in - it would seem that women think men are so lucky 'cos they come every time. Well apart from that being the usual, normal end product of intercourse, it's not always an 'orgasmic' experience. Granted it can be fantastic, but sometimes it's simply a formality, especially if the timing is wrong... judging by the women I've known, when they do come it seems a whole bigger experience than it is for men?
Jeannette I am 23, he tries his best to let me come first but after stopping himself a few times he cant help it!! He is paranoid about being selfish and he does try bless him but I was just wondering whether the g-spot is tired and needs a rest!!!
Why not frogettign intercourse for a bit, do other things instead! Let him go first on you and then swap! Other than that give it a rest and see after a few days!
The experience of an orgasm is subjective. Whilst there is some suggestion that you may become desensitized through too much sex, it is quite likely that the sex has become too �routine�. Whilst twice a day everyday at the same time may sound like a lot of fun, it can have the effect of making it a process. Perhaps you should try some spontaneity and vary the time of day, or abstain for a couple of days and start again.
Also, no two orgasms are the same so there is no point in comparing them. If you are thinking too much about the previous orgasm and concerned about not having one this time round, this can also have an adverse effect.
Try other things. I find that if you go without sex for a long time, the orgasm is much more to write home about. If you have sex all the time, they become less immense. Try and do things that don't necessarily revolve around having an orgasm. There is more to sex and intimacy than just that.
Why don't you, instead of actually having sex, just touch each other and caress for a while, get all aroused but no nookie. Then after a couple of days take it the whole hog, you'll be back on track again. Or cut down to once a day like Scarlett says.
I think that is our plan for now, wind each other up a little without actually doing anything, we dont sex to just become a routine thing although we do still enjoy it, I usually have two jobs and work 15 hour days but I have slowed that down recently so I have found this new found energy!! We cant understand what else it would be apart from fancying the pants off each other!!! xx