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Is this normal behaviour...??
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Someone has posted about "noise" from a neighbour and it prompted me to ask something to see if it is just me or whether my neighbours behaviour is out of order......;
Two nights ago at 2am I was woken up by our doorbell being rung repeatedly. Whoever it was was not giving up until one of us went down. My mind raced, has somebody had an accident, is it a friend or family member in trouble, the police.....??
Turns out it was our neighbour, a strange middle aged man who lives alone and hasnt spoken to us once in 3 months despite us being friendly and acknowledging him as neighbours should.
Our side gate had not been put on the "snip" and was therefore rattling in the high winds.
Yes I admit, our fault and yes it could be quite annoying. But we are very quiet considering we are a young couple with a toddler, no crazy party's, no mess. This was a total one off and did it really warrant all three of us being woken at 2am, toddler screaming, partner really scared and me creeping downstairs in my undies to see what the hell was going on!
I wouldnt have minded if he had proped the gate open with something then explained what had happened the next day, I would have graciously apologised.
It was a rattling gate for god sake! The neighbour on the other side did the EXACT same thing a week previous and yes we were aware of a rattle, but I personally would not dream of waking a family up. I would go round the next day and politely explainthat the gate had kept us up and that would be that.
This guy was really rude to me as well "I cant sleep, I want you to lock your gate, this is a p*ss take, I cant sleep...." He went on for what seemed like a full minute.
So, half asleep I went out and put the snip on to prevent the rattle.
Im still annoyed now and want to confront him
Two nights ago at 2am I was woken up by our doorbell being rung repeatedly. Whoever it was was not giving up until one of us went down. My mind raced, has somebody had an accident, is it a friend or family member in trouble, the police.....??
Turns out it was our neighbour, a strange middle aged man who lives alone and hasnt spoken to us once in 3 months despite us being friendly and acknowledging him as neighbours should.
Our side gate had not been put on the "snip" and was therefore rattling in the high winds.
Yes I admit, our fault and yes it could be quite annoying. But we are very quiet considering we are a young couple with a toddler, no crazy party's, no mess. This was a total one off and did it really warrant all three of us being woken at 2am, toddler screaming, partner really scared and me creeping downstairs in my undies to see what the hell was going on!
I wouldnt have minded if he had proped the gate open with something then explained what had happened the next day, I would have graciously apologised.
It was a rattling gate for god sake! The neighbour on the other side did the EXACT same thing a week previous and yes we were aware of a rattle, but I personally would not dream of waking a family up. I would go round the next day and politely explainthat the gate had kept us up and that would be that.
This guy was really rude to me as well "I cant sleep, I want you to lock your gate, this is a p*ss take, I cant sleep...." He went on for what seemed like a full minute.
So, half asleep I went out and put the snip on to prevent the rattle.
Im still annoyed now and want to confront him
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Very odd, but perhaps he thought if he couldnt sleep due to this annoying noise, why should you..(you all must sleep happily through the rattle) hence the disturbance at such a weird time. At least you did your bit and alleviated the noise, good on you for doing that as most people wouldn't have had that much patience. If you had someone complain before though, why didnt you fix it then? Disturbed sleep for whatever reason is not nice.
Duncer "For Funks Sake Ratter, at two in the morning? Why couldn't he have called much, much earlier?"
I would imagine:
(1) thats when the wind started blowing the gate.
(2) thats when he woke and couldnt sleep
(3) thats when he had enough of the rattling and didnt want to listen to it 1 second longer.
Do you think it was fair that he lie awake all night listening to a gate rattle.
jd_94 should have apologised for the rattling gate and sorted it immediately so they could both get some sleep, I would have been very apologetic for keeping someone awake.
I would imagine:
(1) thats when the wind started blowing the gate.
(2) thats when he woke and couldnt sleep
(3) thats when he had enough of the rattling and didnt want to listen to it 1 second longer.
Do you think it was fair that he lie awake all night listening to a gate rattle.
jd_94 should have apologised for the rattling gate and sorted it immediately so they could both get some sleep, I would have been very apologetic for keeping someone awake.
Duncer, settle down! he said the gate was rattling not left open, how do you know he had access to the gate to stop it from rattling?
Some people can be reasonable, some aren't so reasonable, the guy was asked to stop his gate from rattling so he could get some sleep, that sounds perfectly reasonable to me, even at 2.00 AM.
Some people can be reasonable, some aren't so reasonable, the guy was asked to stop his gate from rattling so he could get some sleep, that sounds perfectly reasonable to me, even at 2.00 AM.
We need to look at this from both sides. Imagine a liked ABer posting in the middle of the night 'I live alone and am a very nervous person. I have no friends, little family and haven't got the confidence to get to know my neighbours. They ignore me and I'm a bit wary of them. I don't sleep well and am on various meds for my anxiety but they only take the edge off. I'm in a terrible state tonight because I'm desperate to sleep but next door's gate is rattling in the wind. It's kept me awake for hours and I'm at the end of my tether. What do you lovely ABers suggest I do, you are my only friends?"
First few replies would be 'go round there and shout until they wake up and sort it'
Just a different perspective jd, that's all.
First few replies would be 'go round there and shout until they wake up and sort it'
Just a different perspective jd, that's all.
Some people can be reasonable, some aren't so reasonable, the guy was asked to stop his gate from rattling so he could get some sleep, that sounds perfectly reasonable to me, even at 2.00 AM.
I can't agree; the only thing reasonable enough to constitute a two o'clock wake up call is an emegency. The OP has already said the problem was solved by putting the snib down.
I can't agree; the only thing reasonable enough to constitute a two o'clock wake up call is an emegency. The OP has already said the problem was solved by putting the snib down.
I have read your posts with interest and there is certainly a split opinion.
My thoughts were that this was a one off total accident on our part, not the final straw in the long line of anti social or loud behaviour. We are really quiet people and very considerate.
This guy just appears to be very isolated and doesnt wish to interact with us, thats fine, his choice. It was almost as if we had insulted him in the worst possible terms and I think that his aggressive doorstep manner was not warranted. He wasnt even polite "excuse me sorry to get you up but......."
My response when the neighbour on the other side's gate was making noise was to accept "ok we have been disturbed slightly" but it can be resolved in the morning and she was apologetic, it was actually the platform for us having what has become a good relationship. We have a toddler and my partner is alone approx 4 nights a month as I work away sometimes.
I think hi attitude was all wrong, even though some can empathise with his actions, to verbally kick off at me wasnt appropriate.....
My thoughts were that this was a one off total accident on our part, not the final straw in the long line of anti social or loud behaviour. We are really quiet people and very considerate.
This guy just appears to be very isolated and doesnt wish to interact with us, thats fine, his choice. It was almost as if we had insulted him in the worst possible terms and I think that his aggressive doorstep manner was not warranted. He wasnt even polite "excuse me sorry to get you up but......."
My response when the neighbour on the other side's gate was making noise was to accept "ok we have been disturbed slightly" but it can be resolved in the morning and she was apologetic, it was actually the platform for us having what has become a good relationship. We have a toddler and my partner is alone approx 4 nights a month as I work away sometimes.
I think hi attitude was all wrong, even though some can empathise with his actions, to verbally kick off at me wasnt appropriate.....