in the doghouse

[haysi06]

Hi, I have a problem I would like some advice on. Went out on Friday and was quite drunk, to cut a long story short I spoke to my pals boyfriends ex - she was with a group of friends from my work. Anyway, it was only 4 a minute and in my drunken state I just said it was daft of me to continue to ignore her coz she was with people i knew. I told my pal and she went bananas! I am going 4 dinner later with her and her boyfriend - i have apologised profusely - but things are going to be tense. Any suggestions to break the ice?

[Scarlett]

Just say- Look, I'm really sorry about speaking to X, I was drunk, and I wasn't thinking. Can we please just forget about it and have a nice evening? Now- drinks are on me! What would you like?

Only someone very immature would still hold a grudge.

[jno]

there's some law against speaking to your pal's...boyfriend's...ex? Why? Your pal doesn't have any right to dictate who you speak to; drunk or sober, you were right to think it was daft to pretend whe wasn't there. Anyway, apologise to your pal - and next time you speak to the other one, don't tell your pal. Just talk to anyone you want; you're a better person for it, and I think they're all being a bit petty and stupid.

[funnywebsite]

Yes, your friend needs to grow up and stop getting jealous if you speak to people they do not like. Don't worry about it.

[haysi06]

Hi

Thanks for the advice - she never even raised the subject so I left it! I honestly felt that she over reacted - but i think she had blown it all out of proportion and had some idea that i was chattin to the ex about her - which is something that i would never do.