Fallen in love and not liked back.

[Bigspoon]

I met this girl a few months ago, we instantly clicked, we started talking to eachother everyday, she was and still is all that I can think about, and we went on a date or two to the cinema and I went round her house for dinner a few times. I told her how I felt about her and she said that it was to soon for her to say anything like that back. That was cool, we had known eachother for about a month, we carried on hanging out and seeing eachother and I thought she was starting to like me more and more, but it's been about three months now and she says that she could never feel the same way about me. I obviously respect that that is how she feels but it does feel like a part of me has died, I've never felt this way about anyone before, we have so much in common, she is amazing. Should I keep trying at it? Try to move on even though it's going to be insainly hard? Any advice? I'm 17 by the way.

[grasscarp]

I had same experience at your age. Felt terrible about it but stopped seeing him. Met him again not that long ago and so glad we did not stay together! Although you feel she is the one for you, unless she feels same way about you it is not going to work.

[murraymints]

No..move on...it happens to us all I can well remember the pains of being 17 and in love..being knocked back was devastating and I thought my world had ended ..a real ache..but it WILL get better....put it down to experience and there will be someone out there who does want you back !!! beleive me..all part of growing up as brutal as that may seem..sorry !!!!

[KindThoughts]

I'm afraid you'll have to move on. Or at best be her friend and see if her perception of you changes. Women (unlike men) can cange their minds eventualy, but I must stress that you must be a friend first. Don't harrass her into changing her mind.

[tenrec]

"Women (unlike men) can cange their minds eventualy"
I resemble that remark.

[Mammar]

Remember her fondly and move on. This might be the first time you've felt like this but it won't be the last. It's all part of the rich tapestry of life. There's lots more girls out there.
Chin up, chuck x

[murraymints]

incidentally the b****er that broke my heart at 17 resurfaced about 5 years ago ..can you imagine after all those years..sent me a grovelling card begging forgiveness and how he should never have let me go and had he any chance as I was the one for him !!!!..30 years too late pal !!!..we all had a good laugh at his words then into the shredder he went !! SATISFACTION knew no bounds !!!

[joeluke]

She's just not that into you

Move on

[boxtops]

JL - for once I agree with you entirely :-)

It's a hard time, bigspoon, but yes, she's being kind to you - move on.

[Flyhalf]

And those of us with ravaged faces
Lacking in the social graces
Desperately remained at home
Inventing lovers on the phone
Who called to say come dance with me
And murmured vague obscenities
It isn't all it seems
At seventeen.

There's plenty of time to find "The One", and it doesn't seem this girl will be it.

[paddywak]

Sadly Bigspoon, it's all part of growing up and unfortunately it will probably happen again. My first really serious girl decided she'd rather go to Aus with her family then stop with me. The second resulted in marriage and seven years of hell before we finally split, but don't worry spoons it usually works out in the end it just takes time, Number three and I have been together for thirty years and she still makes me feel ten feet tall when we go out together.

[Svejk]

We all know these things to be true but Bigspoon won't believe us. Cos none of us could have felt like he's feeling now.
Ah, young love. It was torture.

[breadstick]

yep i too have been there, you feel now like she is the only girl in the world but if you do your best to move on you will be able to look back in a year or so and wonder what all the fuss is about,

worse thing you can do is brood over it and think too much about her however hard it seems

[2sp_]

Sorry, but she's just not the girl for you. She is the girl that will make you appreciate the "one" so much more for loving you back.

[Dee Sa]

she has been honest with you and has not led you up the garden path,move on even though it hurts you can make somone love you when the spark is not there.

[Dee Sa]

sorry I mean can NOT make SOMEONE LOVE YOU.

[beso]

That is just how it goes. She isn't the one and she has been honest.

There are people who didn't have that honesty and went on pretending because they didn't have courage to say so to someone they thought deserved their affections.

Years into a marriage they finally admit to themselves there just is no chemistry. So much time wasted. You wouldn't want that.

Be grateful for her honesty and move on.

You will get over this and some day you will meet a woman who can't get enough of you.