Talk about put you off . . .

[MissCommando]

My sister was shopping in the supermarket yesterday paying at the do it yourself thing and felt like someone was watching her. She had the feeling this bloke was staring at her. Anyway he went and a few mins after, she left the shop and he was waiting outside by the exit. He introduced himself and asked her name and gave her a card for the karate class he runs. She said she wasn't interested as it's not her sort of thing, he continued to tell her that the card would give her a discount and he told her the times of the classes he runs and 'thought it would be good for her'.

My sis is a pretty girl with a nice figure (she couldn't do with 'toning' up in anyway).

Anyway, she put her shopping in the car and he'd followed her and was just stood behind her car doing nothing, watching her.

When she told me, I thought it was a bit odd. I mean talk about putting someone off, she said he seemed a bit weird.

[tenrec]

It might be worth reporting that.

[MissCommando]

I didn't like it when she told me. I've got to say that my sister is a pretty girl and does get some men looking at her but I think this was creepy. Luckily, she had her 2 year old daughter with her so felt a lot safer.

But then I think, well he's given his name (he gave her one of his cards) but it made me feel uncomfortable that he was just staring at her.

[cazzz1975]

that is quite creepy, however I would go further and google him, assuming he may be on FB or have a website promoting his classes, the results will shed some light on him.

[flump1]

Hi , that sounds so creepy , tell your sister to tell her female friends about him. It might be innocent, it might not be, if he follows her again or shows any interest, your sister could take a picture on her phone . I would be worried.

[Eve]

There are some creepy people about! Maybe ask the staff in case anyone else has reported problems with him following women (could be he just liked the look of your sister but doesn't understand the less creepy approach!).

I had one last year, just before Christmas, I was in one of the oriental supermarkets in our Chinatown and he was following me about and came up talking about some strange thing I should use for the cough I had, just seemed really creepy. He made me uncomfortable so I went to a difference place...he turns up there...ditto a third! I had to make a mad dash and leg it across a carpark to lose him!

A friend of mine got chased by a guy in the city centre while walking home after a night out not long ago, terrified her and he was lurked about outside her building for a fair while afterwards. I made her report it to the police.

[MissCommando]

Hmm, thanks for your replies. Jenna, both stories sound awful, glad you managed to get away. Where did your friend run to? Her apartment?

I think this guy probably fancied her and that was his way of chatting her up. My sis is 20 and this guy was about 45. Eugh, can you imagine if she did turn up to his classes!

[Eve]

Yep, back to her flat but she could see him out the window - really affected her.

[MissCommando]

Gosh, how awful. She must have been terrified that he knew where she lived. Hope she doesn't walk home alone at night anymore.

[Kiki-frog]

Definitely a bit of a weirdo. I'd feel really freaked out if that was me. If your sis is attractive, then he maybe thought this would be a way of getting her attention (subtle undermining), as presumably his suave good looks and witty banter (or lack of) wasn't quite doing the trick.

There are some very strange men out there. Hopefully she wasn't too disturbed by the encounter?

[Just-Jude]

It's hard to arrange dates, everybody is social networking. I sometimes sit in the car park waiting to help a pretty girl with her shopping, they don't think I'm weird, just helpful.

[phleb]

Having her two year old with her and a creepy man watching her would not make a good combination. I had this problem in a shopping centre, a foreign man kept following me whereever i shopped. I went to security and asked them to walk me to the car, thank god i did, he followed me to the car, but was collered by security.

[Eve]

She wouldn't for a long long time without someone with her, can't say I blame her, and rarely does now. There have been a lot of sex attacks round here too so not a great idea for any female to be walking on her own at night in the city centre, especially the quieter parts.

[dotty.]

ERRR no I think that's strange Jude, women use trolleys these days and can manage perfectoly fine

[sherrardk]

The first time (maybe about 6 weeks ago) I went to town on my own (all children in school now) a man acted all weird towards me. He was walking ahead of me and kept looking back at me. As we walked through the subway he got his phone out and stopped to talk on it (it was obvious he was pretending) so then he ended up walking behind me. I walked as fast as I could but had to stop at the crossing and I was convinced that was when he was going to 'get me'. He continued to watch me as I walked to the car park. Frightened the crap out me.

[MissCommando]

Bloody hell Sherrard, your heart must have been coming out of your chest with fright. That is like your worst nightmare, how horrible.

Glad you managed to get away from him safely. There are some right freaks around!

[sherrardk]

Hi MissC - thought I was going to have heart failure. Up until recently I haven't gone anywhere on my own, so perhaps I just haven't been spotting the nutters (I am a nutter magnet). Haven't actually been back to town on my own since, I engineer it so that we all have to go on a Sunday.

[flump1]

Sherrardk, sounds like he thought you were stalking him .