Always Feels Anxiety And Horrible Talking To People.?need Help!!! Anyone?

[amna321]

i am 18 years old. Get always excited talking to even friend, always hyper in social environment. On even social sites try to avoid people.
This is not me, when I was in eight grade I was the person who love to talk to people. Always around people, always have high confidence.
But don't know what happened to me now.
It's been fours years I am living in uk, it's not that this country is new to me anymore. But why even talking to doctor , I started to get scared., if feels they going to hurt me.
I have genetic disorder because of that i was been very ill from last two years, get infections one after other. That 's why on various medication for long time. Is that because of this??
I have very few best friends, they actually really love me. My father family every one. But seems that I don't want to talk to them. It feels horrible.
Another problem is that
I cannot trust anyone
Even watching movies it felts everything will end horrible.
Please guys I need you help.
Thanks a lot x

[bednobs]

you don't need our help, you need hte help of a psychiatrist

[Eve]

It does sound like you do need to speak to someone.

From a chronic illness point of view, if you feel ill a lot and horrible then it's not surprising you don't feel all sociable all the time. I know I find it really hard going sometimes when I'm in a lot of pain and feeling really unwell trying to be all happy and cheerful at work. I tend to withdraw and retreat into my own little world to focus on getting through the day.

Similarly, if you don't feel like going out, it's understandable if you're not feeling well. It can be hard but learn to give yourself a break.

That said, some of the things you say do suggest there are deeper issues which you would benefit from talking to someone about.

As regards friends, it's quality not quantity and if they are true friends they will understand if you don't feel sociable all the time - it helps if you talk to them about it when you feel able though so they understand more. I'm very lucky in that I have some great friends but an absolutely amazing best mate.

We can't comment on medication if we don't know what it is but you should be able to find out from speaking to a medical professional. It might be that there are other options which are available which could help you not feel so bad.

[evedawn]

Really do feel for you. Whatever the cause its best that a professional medical person helps. I know you say you're nervous at the dr but perhaps a friend or family member can go WITH you and explain onYOUR BEHALF. All my good thoughts go to you x

[yogi-bear]

Hi amna,

Sorry to hear you feeling this way atb the moment....probably anxiety or nerves BUT one thing for sure, you can get advice and good advice here but youbreally need to speak to someone in the medical profession about how exactly you are feeling and what its doing to you. I would start by making an appointment with your GP and speaking to them about it...they will hopefully give you help and more guidance as to just what you can do and pass on some other Medical departments that can assist you in how to beat this, or at least , control it.

I wish you well for the future and best of luck to you, young lady....keep saying to yourself "I can beat this". :0)

[yogi-bear]

p.s When at the Dr's,TELL them how you feel, if you feel scared....they will understand. x

[Sqad]

\\\ Get always excited talking to even friend, always hyper in social environment. On even social sites try to avoid people.\\

Hyper and try to avoid people..... odd...when one is hyper, people are not a problem.

\\\I have genetic disorder\\\

What genetic disorder?

\\That 's why on various medication for long time.\\

What drugs and what dose?

[society]

Perhaps the medications which you are on is contributing to you feeling 'this' way.

[evedawn]

Perhaps squad this ab'er gets hyper in social situations due to nerves or overcompensating by @acting" good. I say this because when I was struggling with social situations badly no- one would know as adrenalin / nerves mader hyper whilst inside I was a mess. I would always try to avoid social situations in the first place but when I couldn't I'd be non stop talkative etc

[Sqad]

evedawn...right.

[boxtops]

I read it that she hyperventilates due to anxiety in social situations.

[amna321]

thanks a lot everyone for response. it really feels nice, that there is someone out there who can understand me. jenna you get me perfectly. this is not my single problem, a lot of things going in my life. i don't know how to cop all with this.
about seeing a psychiatrist i was thinking from last few months. in couple of months i am going to finish my graduation. i just waiting after i will go and i have a chat with them.
i have blood disorder, i see my consultant every month but i don't think, she can do something. i don't know i always avoid problems,
i know its seems strange but because all incident happened in my life one after other,make me feel like that. about a psychiatrist I don't know, are they really going to help me.
one more thing is it any way, that i contact you guys. because this is my first time, i ever ask question on internet. i was not accepting this response thanks again.:)

[Eve]

Unless you can pay privately then waiting lists for psychiatry services can be lengthy so it might be worth setting something in motion.

You could also look at something like CBT, finding ways to help you cope and help you rationalise things and change the way you think and react to things. I did some and my therapist was absolutely fantastic (recommended by my GP at the time). I had to give up as I was paying privately an my income changed drastically else I've had kept on going.

If it is something like, say, sickle cell then could you find a local support group, meet other people who have the same kind of issues, it may make it a little less daunting if they are going through similar things. It's great to be able to speak to peple who have an idea what you are going through.