Quick Bit Of Advice Needed... Row At Work!

[divegirl]

Morning all!

I had a bit of a falling out with one of my managers last night and he has asked me to put my grievances in to an email and send them to him to raise at the next managers meeting! Here's the issue, I think he knows he was in the wrong and has given me a email address that I do not recognise as a company one. There is a distinct lack of communication where I work and would never know if he hadn't raised my issues....
So... would you, if you were me cc in the other managers on the original mail to make sure they saw it?

Lisa x

[tonyav]

Yes I would Lisa, good luck.

[RATTER15]

Certainly make sure they see it!!

[friedgreentomato]

I wouldn't it will just get his back up further - do as he asks keep a copy and then ask to see the minutes that it was raised.

But if you have issues with your direct manager and you are not able to sort them then you should be able to raise them with his direct manager - they should not really be discussed at a managers meeting.

I would copy his manager in.

[mccfluff]

yes for def

[humbersloop]

yes, and use his formal work email address

where does this fit in with your company grievance policy in terms of process though? When you say row, were you trying to raise something informally and his response has been "put it in writing?"

[divegirl]

Thank you all... I will cc in his manager.... Its so hard as I work on line and there is never any face to face contact [or even by phone] so things do tend to get blown out of proportion. All I know is he has reported me for out 'discussion' last night but with no explanation, I'm just grateful that Skype saves all conversations!!!!

Lisa x

[DTCwordfan]

e-mail him on company e-mail cc boss, mention that he had requested you to send the e-mail to him on an address that you did not know and that you were "distinctly uncomfortable" with this.

first though, in the cold light of day, do you wish to raise last night as a formal complaint.....if so, then write it, sit on it for a couple of hours and come back to it before sending.....you may change a few things and down play emotion.....it becomes more powerful that way.

[DTCwordfan]

crossed over with the last message....still take a little time out though after writing your e-mail

[divegirl]

Humbersloop....
I was made up to manager 2 months ago and have had no formal training, I made one small mistake last night, well I didn't even get to make it as I asked him for help as my line manager. We agreed it was a simple mistake to make and then he just went on and on and on at me about it... So I pointed out that I had no training in that area.
Instead of leaving it at that it got out of hand hence him asking me to put it in a mail to his address... I have written the mail to all three managers [its a small firm] and will cc in the owner/big boss.

Lisa x

[divegirl]

lol...and you weren't there when I posted that!

I have read the mail to two other people [my son and my best mate] and both agree it is fairly written. Its not having a go at the guy as such but stating that I need to know what is expected of me etc

Lisa x

Ps .... not sending it just yet ;0)

[humbersloop]

I'd agree with dt, don't hit send for a while and keep it measured

good luck

[divegirl]

Just to finish this thread...I took advice form a former manager at my company and only sent the mail the manager concerned. I will now wait a week or so and then ask the manager [the owner of the company] above my line manager what he thought of the points I raised in said mail. If he doesn't know what I am talking about then I can send him a copy.... watch this space lol

Thank for all your help

Lisa x