Got My Knickers In Twist

[sherrardk]

(Not literally Sqad, sorry). Some of you will know that my children are everything to me but I seem to be getting it wrong somewhere. Boy #1 (12) rarely cracks a smile, boy #2 is always worried about something, girl doesn't seem to get a look in, thing 1 appears to be thick as a brick (teacher calls it 'away with the fairies' - which she is, thing 1, not the teacher) and thing 2's talking is much better but he's saying some nasty things. Just don't know where I am going wrong.

[sherrardk]

I only call them that on here (would have thought that was obvious). I don't call the youngest 'the twins' as that is how I was referred to. If I had to explain which child I was on about when I spoke about them on here it would get tedious. The majority of people who I interact with on here can 'identify' each child by the 'name' I use for them on here.

[Mick-Talbot]

Well I am surprised no one has pulled you up on the

'thing 1 appears to be thick as a brick'

Not a nice way to talk about your child, she may not be as smart as the others but you should refrain from those kind of descriptions.

[sherrardk]

M-T, whilst I can see your point of view, I am nothing if not honest when it comes to my children. I obviously won't be saying that to her, now or in the future. I could have dressed it up in 'educational terms' but I chose not to be pretentious abut it. It is what is.

[EcclesCake]

Why is it wrong for Sherrard to resort to obfuscation to hide the identity of her children? She is protecting their identity nothing more, don't read too much into it.

[Mamyalynne]

Sherr

19.14
I only call them that on here.

[sherrardk]

I believe I answered you about the name thing at 19.14 (although I have answered this before).

[pips1]

She just said she didn't call them that in real life!! I think it is just a cute way of referring to them on here = no harm done.

[Mamyalynne]

Exactly, my two are Viking and Soupdragon.

[Mammar]

Do you mean the child who is "away with the fairies" actually does have learning difficulties? If so, she should be getting help provided by the school. If not, she just needs positive vibes around her and help to focus. Remember children have learning spurts as well as growth spurts. I know what it's like bringing up 4 offspring - it's tough. You have to be the one to give the positivity, not easy when you're juggling so many balls in the air. Ask boy 1 if he really is unhappy about something and if you get a sullen "no!" Back, he's normal. Same question to boy 2. If he really is worried, see what you can do. If not, same answer as before. The girl who's not focusing, keep an eye on her but step up the positivity around her. The younger boy, just listen and if you hear him coming out with nasty remarks quietly tell him that is not acceptable and ask him why he's saying such things.
Last bit of advice: if these suggestions don't sit well with you, feel free to ignore them. They're your kids, you know them. Do what your heart tells you.

[boxtops]

Thing 1 & 2 is from a film, Dr Seuss I think - it's not something sher's made up just to be horrible to her kids.

[sherrardk]

Mammar - that is something I brought up with the teacher. If she needs extra support because she has a genuine problem then I will fight to get it for her, if she is just stupid then so be it (and I don't mean that in a nasty way, some children are stupid and some parents won't/don't want to see it).

I think I was looking for some sort off affirmation that I am not doing a totally crap job (as I have no family back-up).

Eric - because I stupidly used my real (and not overly common) surname as part of my user name I choose not to use my children's actual names on here. If I gave them all made up names it would be difficult for others to work out who I was referring to and I would still have to explain which one I meant.

[Mick-Talbot]

Excellent post, Mammar

[wolf63]

Your little ones have been 'things' as long as I have known. They have to be called something on here so its a good enough name as any.

I hope you get it sorted Sherradk - I am so very glad that I have no children. I have the two moronic moggies. :-)

[ruthann58]

sounds like a normal family to me , i had one thick as a brick according to primary school headmaster , stange how thats the 1 that went on to do 3 A levels , just carry on with TLC and they will all come out the otherside and so will you xxxx

[woofgang]

My nieces kids dress up as thing 1 and thing 2