Should My Girlfriend Be Hanging Out With Other Guys? Help?

[foREVerA7X]

So my girlfriend of 9 months just got a a part time job....well..about 2 months ago. She got a job at Hooters so she's surrounded by perverts all day. She also goes to an automotive engineering college, so the guys are always drooling over her cause she's like the only girl in the class. The guys are all really nice to her and flirt with her all the time...she says that they are her only friends and that she wants me to let her hang out at their houses alone (without me) and go bowling and to the movies and such.

I am very against this however my girlfriend is not. She claims she doesn't have any girl friends but the ones she works with, and that there all older than her and don't have time to hang out. She dosn't ever dress like a *** in public except her hooters outfit at work, she dosn't ever where makeup either unless she's at work either she's just naturally pretty and all the guys flirt with her and it pisses me off so bad.

I know i'm lucky to have her and she let's me hang out with other people including girls and she says that she trust me around them, but how do I know I can trust her if she's around guys 24-7, should I risk my relationship with her and say that I'm against it or should I suck it up and let her go do things with other guys?

[Anngel]

These are not old mates he is talking about...but new ones. And my comment was referring to LONG-TERM relationships. In this case you would expect any man to be unimpressed if his lady was off out out out with other men surely?

[joko]

she is not on a date with them though .. she is allowed to have friends of the opposite sex, and he has no right to tell her she can't.

its a very outdated view that couples cannot spend time with people of the opposite sex because their partner wont like it

[foREVerA7X]

I'm not making her do anything, she can do what she wants but if she keeps hanging out with other guys and dosn't listen to what I have to say about it then I might dump her. All im asking for is everyones opinion on what I should do and what you would do in my situation.

[Old_Geezer]

I agree what folk says about not getting uptight about her having friends of her own. My previous advice is down to your description which seems to me to be of her having dates with others, and so not apparently feeling commitment to your relationship. Ultimately there is a limit to the value of what others think, you have to decide for yourself, what you are able to put up with. It's not a case of one person controlling another but both compromising knowing the needs of the other. Go talk with her again, and remember to listen too.I agree what folk says about not getting uptight about her having friends of her own. My previous advice is down to your description which seems to me to be her having dates with others and so not apparently feeling commitment to your relationship. Ultimately there is a limit to the value of what others here think, you have to decide for yourself, what you are able to put up with. It's not a case of one person controlling another but both compromising, knowing the needs of the other. Go talk with her again, and remember to listen too.

[Sharingan]

If you are thinking of dumping her because she has friends outside of your approval and think she shouldn't because you don't like it then you are clearly not right for her. You have to trust a person you are with, this problem will keep coming back to you with every partner you have until you understand that it's your probem not theirs. Most younger women wouldnt stand for someone trying to dictate or control what they do, I wouldn't and niether would anyone I know. Why dont you just relax and accept her word that she's chosen you instead of looking for a reason for it all to go wrong?

[foREVerA7X]

Yeah, but how would you feel if your boyfriend was around girls all day and they were constantly flirting with him, that wouldn't bother you?

[Sharingan]

My boyfriend is in a band and he's constantly surrounded by girls who fling themselves at him, and no it doesnt bother me at all because I trust him, likewise I act and am around attractive guys quite a lot and it doesnt bother him either because he trusts me. Don't be so needy, your girlfriend has chosen you.