Your Thoughts On This Woman .....

[Ann]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2303588/The-mother-says-having-children-biggest-regret-life.html

I pity her poor children reading this - she should keep her thoughts to herself I think.

[emmie]

just one side of the story, if the children knew and were happy then fine, however as others have said, why go to the papers,
and to say that they were parasites, who took from me and didn't give back, seems a very strange thing to say about anyone, not just your children.

[ummmm]

My grandad, who played a massive part in my upbringing, has cuddled me once, and that was when my other granddad died. I have never doubted his love for me. We don't all need expressions of love to feel content and secure.

[ummmm]

She said they were parasites trying to explain how she felt at that moment. Doesn't mean she felt the same when they were older.

[EvianBaby]

My Dad is not the gushing love type. He doesn't give hugs and kissed and you can see him inwardly panicking at the smallest sight of his kids emotions. I'm not sure I've ever heard him say he loves me. But he doesn't need to. He shows it in other ways and I've never doubted how he feels about any of us for one second.

[rockyracoon]

Agreed, anyone can say they love someone, doesn't make it so though does it? Actions speak louder than words!

[emmie]

perhaps the adults can get a chance to say what they think. I know parents don't have to be gushing in their love, i don't think my gran was like that, but my mother was and is.

[ummmm]

My mother, grandmother and father were all very loving people. I was only interested in my dad. Kids can be cruel as well.

[China Doll]

My youngest sister used to call my nephew a parasite when she was pregnant with him which upset my mum but it was obvious to anyone else she was joking. My other sister who is now pregnant calls her bump 'Baby Alien' because the scan pictures made her think of the Alien movies. Neither is a particularly nice term for your child but I think what can look cold written down is not the same as if you were to hear it from someones voice, the written word can lose a lot as well as inspire a lot.

[Sharingan]

Both of my parents are very tactile and loving an that's nice. My dad's mother was cold and weird and never got past the issues she has with my father to show her grandchildren any affection. His father is dead. My mother's father was just dynastic, only worried about how well the family as a whole did but in his way very loving in enabling people to do well. He was not huggy and kissy or anything else but I remember him as a man who could have been approached about anything and a problem solver which is love in it's own way. My mother's mother is brilliant, she's young, fun, happy, always upbeat and positive and again an enabler but one who is happy to tell everyone how much she loves them.
It's not that I assume this woman should be maternal, I don't, I'm not very maternal myself and would probably feel the same way she does, but I would not marry someone who wanted children, then have children I didn't want to keep them happy and finally publicly inform the whole world of that.Even though they are adults now that really can't feel very nice.

[friedgreentomato]

I am sure philpott told his children he loved them!!

[joko]

i think she should perhaps have done this anonymously - her kids and other family members will probably be angry and hurt by this.
knowing her name and face is not important to the story.

because i think what she has actually said is important - she is most certainly not alone in her feelings and i expect there are many women struggling with their emotions as to why they feel nothing.

not all women are maternal, same as not all men are paternal - I am not - I love my nephews and nieces but have no real desire to have any of my own.
I always just assumed I would have some one day, but now its getting to the point of being too late for me - and i've realised i don't really mind if i miss the 'window'.

thankfully people are starting to understand and accept that women are not just baby makers - they have so many other things in life.
women used to automatically assume that it was what they were supposed to do, and people would pity them if they didnt or couldnt.

her coldness is surprising though - even though i dont particularly want kids i know if i had one, i would love that child instantly and would cherish them and die for them.
she acted like nothing more than a carer.

[chaptazbru]

I'm glad my Mum never said this about me!

[ummmm]

//even though i dont particularly want kids i know if i had one, i would love that child instantly and would cherish them and die for them.//

You don't know that.

[emmie]

chapta, the same as me, x

[bednobs]

i have come to the conclusion from reading the article, that the woman contradicts herself so often, that she is either crazy (seems unlikely) or the dm has just written a very poor article in which they are sensationalising what she is saying and that's not really exactly what she said

[sandyRoe]

Some thoughts are better left unsaid.

[joko]

yes i do ummm ... because i feel almost like that about my nieces and nephews.

i know i would

this women knew she wouldn't all along