How Do I Know If This Lady Is Likes Me Or Just Being Friendly?

[inez20]

this lady goes to church though but she gives me these glances all the time.sometimes when im talkin to someone or she is or we both are talking to someone she'll stare right at me.one.she does takes me and my two siblings places like skating.like sometimes she'll look at me when she wants to say something and wait until I look at her and then say something.and she always biting her lips and making this noise whenever im with her..and I noticed she only does that when im around her..or when im talkin to someone she'll look right at me and i'll look away or she looks at me and i'll look back she'll look away...then one day I decided to hold the gaze and she held it back then I looked away then I look back again because she was still lookin at me and thats when she looked away but with this flirty look the whole time but idk.but then everytime i look at her shes always looking at me or someone in my direction and when i catch her she ALWAYS look away like she dont want me knowing that shes looking at me..so tell me ur opinion...she told me that her roomate was gay and she said:"oh this aint gone work".but still stares at me, like the flirting type and looks away when i look at her,she takes me two of my siblings out places and she buys me things to sometimes..

[grasscarp]

Someone who likes you is someone who is friendly. Same thing.

[craft1948]

She takes you and your siblings out so you're a minor?

[Mamyalynne]

Is this lady considerably older than you ?

[inez20]

craft1948 yes she takes us out and no im 20 years old,and Mamyalynne yes she is she's 50.thats why idk if what im seeing is actually true or just my imagination?

[grasscarp]

This lady goes to church. What has that to do with anything? Do you as an adult need to be taken out and have things bought for you?

[Mamyalynne]

Please do not misunderstand my response, but if you are at all vulnerable then you may be misreading her care as something more - equally if she holds a position of trust in her care for you, then it may be worth mentioning to someone within your family or even the church.

As it stands I think you should not try to read too deeply into this.

[inez20]

grasscarp:she does it to be nice ,i never asked her to do anything she just did it on her own...and i thought people that go to church dont do certain things.

[AlwaysConfused]

I'm just going to repeat the same questions here: Why does she take you out? It seems a little odd at your age. How old are your siblings?

[Canary42]

She likes you AND is just being friendly - that answers your question.

More pertinently, why do you want to know ?

[grasscarp]

To quote you inez20, "she does it to be nice ,i never asked her to do anything she just did it on her own...and i thought people that go to church dont do certain things."
What certain things? This woman is nice and friendly and takes you and you siblings out. Sounds like she is showing you kindness and charity which are Christian values.

[factor-fiction]

I can't add anything to what's already been said but in case it helps anyone I've worked out that the idk references mean "I don't know"

[murraymints]

Keep your distance...whatever is going on its not healthy !!

[taffinnorfol]

Maybe she's wrestling with her sexuality. If she's in a gay relationship with her room-mate, maybe she's looking intently at you to consider what the alternative would be like before she's too old to do something about it. Whatever, I would personally steer clear as it's not healthy for you given respective ages. Also, keep an eye on your siblings in case she's predatory.

[ruthandsam]

What - some of the responses are a little over the top in my opinion. Christian lady of 50 showing kindness is probably all that it is, however, if in any doubt whatsoever or if you and your siblings are uncomfortable with the situation, just say thanks but no thanks.

[Baldric]

taffin, according to profile inez20 is female so maybe not

[Sheye20]

@alwaysconfused: my siblings are 9 and 10 yrs old.im 20 and how is it odd thats she taking me out?

[AlwaysConfused]

It's odd the way you put it. If you said 'we go out', I'd imagine her as a friend. But when you say she takes you out, it sounds like you are still a child, not a 20 year-old adult, and she is mothering you. I agree with taffin: keep an eye on your siblings in case she's predatory.

[Barmaid]

Forget to log out did we sheye/inez? Fundamental mistake. Must try harder.

[grasscarp]

Well spotted Barmaid