Somebody Help Me? Please Read?

[foREVerA7X]

I'm a 15 year old girl and a few days ago I was talking with my mom and my brother, and at one point they said something like “I think it’s good to think about the future and to imagine yourself where you want to be. It keeps me going.” I actually do that a lot, though I’m beginning to wonder if it’s such a great idea.

When I say ‘thinking about the future’ here, I’m not talking about planning or something like that. I guess ‘day-dreaming’ would be a better word. I spend a lot of time just wandering around the house thinking of different futures. Sometimes it’s more of a “what kind of person am I going to be in 5 or 10 years” kind of thing, other times it’s just thinking about what’s going to happen tomorrow, or, I guess more accurately, what I wish would happen tomorrow.

The problem with this for me is that when I’m doing this, I think it’s some way of resolving issues I have with my present. Seriously, I think if I stopped to think about all the things about my life I don’t like right now I’d go crazy. Lately I think I’ve just been going one day at a time without thinking too much about what’s really happening or worrying about the bigger issues I have with my life. I’m pretty much doing the bear minimum that I have to…and then going to play Call of Duty (omg, I don’t think I realize how much COD is keeping my depression at bay).

Anyway, normally doing something to keep my demons at bay would probably be a good thing. But the thing with this is, I think I’m not responding to being dissatisfied with my life properly. I should be doing things to fix my life, not thinking about them. I realize in theory it should be possible to do both, but what happens (I think) is that by thinking about the future, I’m appeasing the part of my mind that yearns to change things. So when I have an opportunity to actually do something and I want that part of my mind to be screaming its head off… its silent. And so nothing gets done, I take my quiet self-reflecting bus ride home, get home all depressed, think about how things are going to magically be different the next day, and get that part of my mind quiet again so it won’t be telling me to do anything tomorrow either.

Day dreaming is pretty much all that I do all day and it's literally making me sick and depressed because as soon as I get in touch with the "right now" reality, I just start day dreaming again. I don't know how to stop?

[mrs_overall]

Evian, be a pal and pass the codeine around...

[EvianBaby]

Can't begin to imagine Sara ;)

Mrs_O, I'm normally very protective of my precious codeine. But I'll make an exception in this case.

[mrs_overall]

Thanks Evian
I'd share the Tramadol around but I need a new prescription

[humbersloop]

small, ornamental megaliths, there must be a niche surely?...

[mrs_overall]

Pebble Henge?

[humbersloop]

genius!!

[Svejk]

Cripes, 15, Sharingan. I knew you were young but thought early 20s.
I want to say, good girl, or something. Can't think of anything that wouldn't sound terribly patronising.
Re. the question, I day-dream all the time & I'm, ahem, quite old.

[mrs_overall]

Sweaty, just how[i old is [i]quite old?]

[Svejk]

Middle-aged then.

[mrs_overall]

Dammit, you are too young for this 93 year old :-(

[Iluvspikey]

Life is frightening - there' a big wide world out there, and you don't know what to do about it. Well, for a start, you don't have to pigeon-hole yourself to one thing, so, have you any idea, without going off into the realms of fantasy, what you might like? A career? A homelife and family? Talk to the careers officer at school this will give you basic options , study, college, university etc. You can always change. Peope do all the time. You might want to travel.
Playing computer games isn't keeping depression at bay, you are not depressed, just...unenlightened! We all have dreams, hopes, we just all need a little help to start to achieve them..

[Slooow_Jo]

you're 15, hormones are raging! I'm 37 & still cant cope with hormones! you're smart! I know because you know how to paragraph! it seems to me you're just in a panic! daydreaming I think is normal, but if it takes your focus away from revising it may be an issue! You can talk to your doctor confidently! your doctor is under oath!

[Barquentine]

I've always found that, if there is lots of stuff going round in my head, I write it down. After I've written stuff down I find I'm not having to think about it anywhere near as much. I think that's because my brain knows it's safely stored on paper in a file (or in my computer) - so it can kind of relax and get on with more constructive planning.
Turning more specifically to your question though, all I can do is say what I regret not doing is working out what I wanted to try to get by certain ages. I've always drifted along and now all my friends have their own houses, cars and families and I still haven't got round to all that and it's probably a bit late! I should have discussed more serious things with friends instead of never taking anything seriously! It would have been good to have had a plan and to work out how to achieve that plan. Hey ho! Maybe I'll get to live another 50 years?!