Corrupt Police Officer.

[lespaul]

During last year, a police officer was found to be guilty by internal affairs. The officer involved is now harassing my wife in her work place (cafe), even though the officer involved has been banned from entering her work premises in uniform since last may, but continues to enter her work place, drink tea and stare. My wife made a statement to an inspector last October, of harassment against this police officer, but they refuse now to in-force the statement towards the police officer and have turned their backs on us, they may want this whole thing not to be made public. Any advice would be welcome.
Many thanks.
Les Paul.

[Orderlimit]

Have you sought any independent legal advice Lespaul?

and have you considered the IPCC

http://www.ipcc.gov.uk/en/Pages/default.aspx

http://www.ipcc.gov.uk/en/Pages/your_complaint_.aspx

[bednobs]

the manager at your wife's place of work needs to ban him. found guilty of what? I don't understand what you mean by "they refuse to enforce the statement"

[woofgang]

well its public now....

[lespaul]

My Wife boss wont stop the officer coming in as they dont want to get involved due him been a police officer , and he got found guilty of breaching the data protection act

[bednobs]

there is obviously much more to this than you are saying here, so i think it'll be hard to give you any meaningful advice

[tonyav]

lespaul, are you in the USA ?.

[lespaul]

uk

[magsmay]

This may sound a bit obvious -but why does she not just ignore him -or better still -smile and wave at him when he stares at her? - maybe take a piccie of him on her mobile phone -surely he has got a lot more to lose than her? He's not actually breaking the law sitting in a cafe drinking a cup of tea -however uncomfortable it makes your wife and for whatever reason he is doing it.

[joko]

i agree with ignoring him, or better, smiling and being friendly etc - he is clearly doing this to get to her - and its working - if she shows she couldn't care less, his behaviour loses it power, and he will likely stop.

i would stare back a bit, pretend to whisper to colleagues while looking at him and start laughing, shake your head pityingly, make overly friendly comments 'how is your tea sir, i hope its all that you hoped it would be'
and generally smirk at him etc

he will soon realise he's wasting his time.


she cannot do much because going into a public cafe and drinking tea is not harassment, and the staring is really just her opinion - he could say shes paranoid.

[Davethedog]

As we don't know why, I don't think we can answer.

As for those saying wave etc, how do we know hes not a stalker? Wavings not going to do a lot of good. Is it? Just saying

[Sparkles62]

People can only bother you or harass you if you let them.
If you let someone know that you are scared

[Sparkles62]

Typing with 16 month grandson on your knee not the best idea, when he keeps deleting my work, or sending them half done. lol

If you let someone know that you are scared of something then they can use that thing to scare you.
I wouln't reccomend winding him up by waving or talking about him, but would suggest that she just serves him, then ignores him and busies herself with the other customers, cleaning or whatever.
If bullies don't get a reaction, then they don't get any gratification from wt they are doing.
Hopefully he will soon get bored. X