The Hoarder Next Door

[Sammy48]

Everytime I watch this , I am totally amazed how they live in this utter confusion and mess.

Their hoarding always seems to start with an emotional trauma in their life. Very sad.

A lady in tonight's episode

[Sammy48]

Oops pressed 'submit'. A bit early.

She was advised by Stellios, the therapist to burn her estranged husbands sleeping bag which he used on the sofa for 8 years, to move on with her life.
I can relate to that, I poured bleach over my first husbands clothes when I found out he was cheating on me. Very therapeutic. Lol

[Old_Geezer]

I'd suspect releasing anger might be slightly different to cutting a bond to someone in your life that you desperately want to hold on to. The latter being more difficult as it seems to be rejecting something/someone you value greatly.

What one is has been formed by all the things that have happened in one's past. It can not be easy to throw, all that ties you to that past time, away, leaving you feeling naked/vulnerable and with little to show for your life so far.

Possessions are a large part of what one uses to identify oneself. Both to self and others. But they accumulate and can eventually 'drag one down'. If something is a treasured memory to be valued today at what point can one decide they are a burden to be deemed worthless and slung ? What changed at that moment ?

[chaptazbru]

Actually these people who hoard like this get on my wick!! Sorry to seem harsh, but they give very little thought to the people and pets who have to live with them, trying to make their way through all the mess, and when confronted they always get angry and flounce off as if it's not really their fault ! Personally, I think people pussyfoot around them too much.

[China Doll]

It’s an interesting program but it does make me feel a bit twichy. I have to confess to not always feeling a great deal of compassion or empathy for some of the people though despite knowing it’s obviously a mental health issue. I remember this one lady who had to be told to comfort her husband/fella who was literally crying buckets because of his feelings of frustration and like she didn’t care what he though; she came across as incredibly selfish and self centred. That said, there was another lady who I felt really sorry for as she has obviously lost her hubby extremely unexpectedly and her hoarding started as part of mourning him I guess.

I think people working with hoarders must be incredibly patient and tolerant, I don’t think I’d last an hour!

[ummmm]

It must be horrible. I know when we've had a child free weekend and had people round, get up the next day thinking 'I don't know where to start' and that's just a weekends mess.

[pusskin]

I watch all these programmes as i find them fascinating.
I really do feel sorry for most of them, as they just dont know how to cure theiir problem and chuck things out.
I wont ever moan about the few things that i will not throw away, and god help me puss if he threw them away behind my back!!! lol

[silliemillie]

I dont really feel that sorry for them, they all blame it on some past sad event, well we have all had them havent we? I know I shouldnt be so harsh as its verging on 'a mental health issue' but really feel like saying pull yourself together!!

Some of it is laziness tho even though they blame it on 'past events'. They say they are holding on to things from the past. err like bits of paper and cardboard??? Even if they chucked those bits away it would be better.

[Smowball]

I watch these programmes and just cannot understand how they can live like that. How do they ever find clean clothes to wear??

[Sammy48]

I think the hoarding gets so bad, they just don't know where to start. Its when those two blonde ladies come into help them and find rat droppings under a pile of tat that really makes me cringe.