when is enough enough

[wendyjamie]

i have been having threats from my younger brother for many year the other day he kicked in my door smashed the glass and threaten my husband today i was assulted by my sister in law i had enough and went to the police was i wrong? i have put up with threats pushing and shoves for many years ingoring them doesnt work even though his wife has been interviewed by police he is still making threats but they say until he does something threre is nothing i can my 14 yrs daughter has also been threated what can i do

[suzi-q]

Have never had experience of this before except threatening behavior by my ex-husband.

In my view, brother or not, he does not have the right to behave like this to you, members of your family, or anyone else and should be made to face the consequences of his actions.

I think youve done absolutely the right thing to report him.

Best of luck - lets hope this situation improves for you.

[laurence2]

theirs no place in society for bulling/threats, i,m tempted to say fight fire with fire but this would only bring you down to their level {gutter}. what part of criminal damage did the police not understand, go via an solicitor and get an in-junction out on them to keep them away from you and your family and property,chances are he,ll ignore the in-junction and go to jail {hopefully]. ps would i be surprised if he already has a criminal record, and are you just brother & sister or if others whats their relationships like.

[kick3m0n]

keep detailed notes of when and where any further threats occur. keep any texts etc which are threatening, and ask anyone who witnesses the threats if they'd be willing to make a statement saying what they saw. Try and get recordings of any threats etc (use a video camera/phone if you have one). The more evidence you have, the better your chances of a restraining order against this hideous pair. Keep at the police and make sure they realise just how bad this is. After all, kicking your door in is surely criminal damage, at least, never mind the threats??
You absolutely did the right thing. no one should live in fear, least not from a thug of a brother and his equally thuggish wife. Well done for having the guts to stand up to this pathetic bully. Good luck. xx

[Drusilla]

If he kicked in your front door, he has already committed a crime for which he can be prosecuted.

The police may seem cynical in such cases, but so many family members seek police assistance, only to withdraw statements at a later date, wasting police time and valuable resources.

Go to a solicitor and seek an injunction against both of them. This will prevent them coming within a certain distance of your family home for a period of time. (I think it's a few months). It is worth doing this because it will show the authorities you are serious about this matter.

Best wishes.

[WendyS]

Sounds as if you have already gone more than the extra mile in tolerating these two members of your family. I think you and your husband need to insist the police now take action in terms of implementing an ASBO (Anti Social Behaviour Order). I would also catalogue everything that has happened and contact a solicitor to enquire whether an injunction can be taken out to prevent them contacting you or coming to your house in future. If you are friendly with your neighbours, it might help to take them into your confidence and also ask them to keep a record of any further incidents so that you have some independent witnesses. It is totally unacceptable that your young daughter is subjected to this behaviour. Your family loyalty does you credit but this activity has gone beyond the bounds of acceptability and the safety ofyour husband and daughter, as well as yourself should now be your prioity. And don't feel guilty about it. You have no need to.