Law And Cremains On A Grave

[pauline1948]

My brother died and his son wants to put is cremains on top of my dads grave I am sure he can do that with my permission but he said I need to sign the grave right over to him with my other brother and sister I don't think he should end up with the grave as he as never looked after it in the last 30 years I've been doing that.my sister and brother are going to sign if I don't that makes it 2 to 1 I don't no what to do as I was told if he gets the rights he can take anything I put on my mum and dads grave and I can't do anything about it I am 65 and I have had enough I need someone that no's the law please help

[boxtops]

I am sorry, what's a cremain?

[factor-fiction]

I assume they are ashes (crematorium remains), boxtops.

[Mamyalynne]

Ashes ?

[boxtops]

Ah - thank you, I've never heard the term before.

[factor-fiction]

Nor me, boxtops

[Mamyalynne]

If the deeds for the grave are in your name, no need to sign them over at all.

[boxtops]

If the grave deeds are in your name, you don't have to do anything at all. Just stand your ground.

[Graham-W]

AS boxtops says, if the grave is in your name, you can give permission for your brothers remains to be scattered there (in writing if need be) but there is no need to give up your title.
If the title is shared between you and your brother and sister, then you will have to discuss, with them, whether to hold onto the grave or pass it on.

[joko]

i think he's trying it on, trying to gain ownership - why on earth would it be a legal requirement for you to relinquish your rights just to sprinkle ashes?

unless he just means you have to sign something giving him permission and either you or he has misunderstood what the document is...?

if not tell him he is free to put them there but you will not be giving up the rights - and I urge you to convince your brother and sister not to either - I cannot think what the son has in mind for the plot but there must be something if he is doing this.

[EDDIE51]

I don't think you need any permission at all just to scatter ashes, they will be 'absorbed' into the ground and almost unnoticeable in a few months anyway.

[BlueToffee]

I have lost both my parents, and also my oldest child.

I think of my mother and son every day, my father died when I was just a tot so don't remember him.

My feeling is that when the curtain closes at the crematorium, so the life ends. I visit neither my mother's nor my son's resting places, but it doesn't lessen my feelings for them.

I hope that when I leave this world, my children and OH will feel the same.

[Skyline D]

I would assume Eddie and joko that he actually wants to open the grave and inter an urn of ashes rather than just sprinkle them on the grass. That's how I read it anyway.

[joko]

skyline - it says - put is cremains ON TOP of my dads grave

opening a grave just for that is a whole other issue.
i thought that could only happen with a very good reason - like a murder mystery or something, not something rather unnecessary

[DJHawkes]

is this a grave in a church graveyard or a corporation cemetary, as that does make a difference. any official burial of any sort has to be recorded at both and there are limits to the number of burials, including ashes, that can be put in one plot.

[Peter Pedant]

I own my own grave-plot. as far as I am concerned I give permission for the other five spaces whilst I am alive and after I die my heirs do

Permission only - title does not need to be transferred (anyway, to a DEAD person is hardly valid) ..

I think this is a come-on or a put-on or to put it politely your nephew has misunderstood the situation.