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Speaking Ill Of The Dead - Right Or Wrong?
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A fairly well known local man died last Thursday. He wasn't the most popular man in town but the amount of vitriolic comments I have heard about him since he died has surprised me. Not one person has expressed their sorrow for his three young children: all comments seem to be along the lines of good riddance to bad rubbish.
I am not saying I liked this man but I think the comments I have heard are disrespectful to his family.
I am not saying I liked this man but I think the comments I have heard are disrespectful to his family.
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Apart from it being bad manners to speak ill of the dead, it's just pointless. The person you didn't like and thought very little of is the one person who can't hear you.
Family and friends will be more than aware of the flaws of the person who has died, I think that just after the death really isn't the time to be reminding them that the recently expired was a liar/thief/cheat/scumbag.
Better to say nothing at all, or if you are cornered say something vague like "he definitely left a mark on the world" or "she will leave a gap".
Family and friends will be more than aware of the flaws of the person who has died, I think that just after the death really isn't the time to be reminding them that the recently expired was a liar/thief/cheat/scumbag.
Better to say nothing at all, or if you are cornered say something vague like "he definitely left a mark on the world" or "she will leave a gap".
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I think, like you, Mrs O that it is plain good manners to keep one's opinions to one's self at such a time, to say to the family that you are sorry for their loss, and if you can, find something honest and good to say about their lost relative. Unkind gossip at such a time (no matter how true or well founded) reflects more on the gossipers than on the deceased.
"I think, like you, Mrs O that it is plain good manners to keep one's opinions to one's self at such a time, to say to the family that you are sorry for their loss, and if you can, find something honest and good to say about their lost relative. Unkind gossip at such a time (no matter how true or well founded) reflects more on the gossipers than on the deceased. "
...and what Woofy said too. Very well said, Woofy!
...and what Woofy said too. Very well said, Woofy!
one of my relations went to a funeral where the fella had ended his own life
and the congregation had to sit thro a speech from the vicar saying it was all their fault he had done it.
They were apparently too stunned to walk out
I went to one funeral of an old fella, full of years and a church goer
and his son's eulogy consisted of telling us what it was like to be on the run from the police ! One of the siblings got up and told the priest to shut him up
and the congregation had to sit thro a speech from the vicar saying it was all their fault he had done it.
They were apparently too stunned to walk out
I went to one funeral of an old fella, full of years and a church goer
and his son's eulogy consisted of telling us what it was like to be on the run from the police ! One of the siblings got up and told the priest to shut him up
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