You have to remind his mum that our children do not belong to us - they are loaned to us for a short time.
After that, they become independent thinking and acting adults, and do as they wish - which may not reflect the morals and graces with which they have been raised.
All any parent of any child can do is to explain to the child, in language appropriate to the child's development, the way the world turns.
If you do this - this will happen, of you do that, that will happen, some good, some bad, but essentially, actions have consequences.
Now - armed with the information and love i have given you, and will continue to give you until i die, off you go into the world and do what you will.
I hope you will be a good person. If you are not, then i have done everything in my power as a parent to make sure that you understand that the world is not yours to use as you please - you live in a society with rules, and you must obey those rules.
If you do bad things, it will not stop me loving you, but I may distance myself from you to prevent further hurt coming down on me through the way you behave.
I will tell myself every day that i did everything in my power to make you a good person, and if you are not, it is because that is how you chose tyo behave, despite everything i taught you and the love I showed whle teaching you.
I will feel responsible for what you have done, but I must not, because it s your choices and actions, not mine.
I will do my best to come to terms with the person you are, and the things you have done, and I know that i could not have done anything different to make you different that the man you are.
there is no future for me in shame over you, i just live my life and hold my head high, and know that i could not have done more. That will sustain me through the hard times ahead.
Not all the times - I will weep when alone for the man you are - but I am a person too, and my life must go on.