Csa.. For 18 Yr Old

[polar1]

Hi there i've been a mug for to long believing if I don't chase for maintenance then I have nothing to thank my ex for..
Only now it's affecting my sons quality of life I can't afford to give much to him, he has a job plus he's in education he wants to learn to drive etc etc... he has asked his father only for him to say sorry son i'm broke, he drives a porsche has a motorbike and v.w camper
can we claim for csa now???

[bednobs]

what kind of education is he in?
just because someone has a lot of things doesn't mean they have any cash/

[polar1]

college bednobs, he doesn't believe in finance and buying his house out right I think he can afford driving lessons etc for our son

[pixie373]

Are you able to speak to him yourself? Unless he's extremely stubborn, you might get further. I think the CSA might take it on if a child is under 19 and in full-time education. However, they will take years to do any assessment, so give them a ring, but please don't hold your breath!

[murraymints]

If he is 18 left school and gone motto further education then I think it's too late for cad..we paid till his son had left school and as soon as he went into uni then we did not have to any more. Does he get grant or anything that requires parental contribution ? Perhaps he could be pursued down that line ? You need to consult family lawyer if you are serious. Have you tried to appeal to his better nature...if he has one that is

[murraymints]

Csa...not cad..Freudian slip by predictive thingy

[polar1]

thank-you pixie and murray x we don't talk he was abusive when we were together.
Maybe i've left this to late thanks guys x

[murraymints]

It still may be worth consulting family lawyer..usually first consultation is free..nothing to lose ! Good luck..xx

[queenofmean]

Polar1 as the saying goes 'If you don't ask you don't get' at least give it a shot at the end of the day you can at least say you tried your hardest - good luck

[polar1]

much appreciated murraymints ( i like the name lol ) I think i will call thanks x

[pixie373]

Maybe Citizens Advice might point you towards Family Mediation?

[murraymints]

You may be able to make some retrospective claim, I hope so..it's guys like this that don't deserve kids let us know how things go ...xx

[EvianBaby]

Whilst I don't disagree the father should be paying towards his sons upkeep, driving lessons are not an essential. What's to stop your son saving up and paying for his own? I realise its expensive for someone that age working part time, I did it myself.

[murraymints]

Evian I suspect it is really the injustice of dad not accepting any parental responsibility financially that now irks...not really about driving lessons.