Emotional!!

[BIRD]

How can I stop myself being so emotional? I've just said goodbye to my 18 year old son who is going to New York for 4 days with his college and I was like an emotional wreck! I'm so pleased for him to go but soon as it comes to goodbyes I feel the tears starting to well up and feel such a fool. I was the same when my 20 year old daughter went away with her mates for the first time. What can I do to get over this problem?

[kate1976]

I'm exactly the same so no advice from me I'm afraid! I think it's just one of those things, just accept it as part of you, there's nothing wrong with showing emotion!!

You're not a fool, just human!
Take care!
xxxxx

[pugwash52]

I doubt that you can get over it, bird. It's a condition called "being a parent". We know we have to let them go, but it doesn't stop us being tearful.

[andy-hughes]

It's not a problem, so nothing to get over. I would have given my eye teeth for such a show of emotion from either of my parents just once, and as a result, I am very affectionate with my girls, even though two of them are grown women. there is not enough demonstrative love in the world - don't diminish yours - celebrate it!

[Lonnie]

I think one word sums it up, Mothers, most act like you did when the young fly the nest, even for a short time, you shape us, mould us, worry, cry, bring happiness and a sense of security. From cradle to grave, we are always your babies. I still remember my mother saying, when I was fifty, ' your still not too big to put over my knee', Even now, almost everything I do, I can feel her looking over my shoulder nodding her head in approval or disapproval at things I do.

[Drusilla]

Being emotional at the departure of a child is an expression of love and I'm sure your children adore the fact their mum cares so much about them. Try not to be so hard on yourself, I'm sure they wouldn't want you any other way.

[BarbieT2]

Absolutely natural to react that way - you wouldn';t be normal if you hadn't - just put him in God's care and he will come back in one piece and you hopefully will be able to rest easy - another plus is that he will be able to tell you all the great things he did there and reunions are special enough to make you understand how much our families mean to us.... my daughter goes travelling often - I put her in God's hands and always look forward to her home coming with all her exciting news - of course regular phone calls are always helpful, but they're having such a good time they often forget to call!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!BarbieT2

[smudge]

We felt exactly the same when our two daughters went on holiday for the first time without us. Also when they left home & got married.

It took a long time for us to get used to putting out 2 plates for dinner instead of 4! We really missed them calling out Mum, Dad, where's this & that....but they both live nearby & we see them quite often, so it could be worse.

Your son won't be away for long BIRD, so try to think of him having a wonderful time seeing all the sites with his friends. He'll be back before you know it.

[Supernick]

I'm sure that your son will be pleased to know that his Mum cares so much. I'm 25 now, and remember my Mum leaving me at university, and being in tears. It's incredibly comforting to know that even if your moving away etc then you've always got someone who cares about you and wants to see you all the time. 7 years doen the line, and she still fusses over me when I leave after Christmas etc, and go back to my own flat which is a couple of hours away. And it's STILL a comfort, so I'm sure your son probably thinks the same.

[BIRD]

Thank you all so much for your kind words, you've started me off again now!!! xx

[smudge]

Just for you BIRD!