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In Love With My Girl Best Friend
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This is going to be quite lengthy so I would be grateful if you would take the time to read this and leave me some advice:
I am a 16 year old boy. I'm fairly emotional and a little overweight. I'm by no means popular but my bestest friend ever is the most beautiful girl in the world. We're really close and I spend a lot of time with her. She's funny confident and absolutely stunning.
Our close friendship over the past years has led me to develop feelings for her. There's not a minute that goes by when I don't think about her, literally. I look on her Facebook, Twitter and Instagram profile like every hour just to see what she's up to and most of the time nothing's changed from the last time I looked. This has become an automatic check I do everyday on my phone and it's quite worrying because I start to search her username in these apps without even realising.
For her 16th birthday I recently bought her a £95 Tiffany necklace, some bath bombs and an iTunes vouched as well as Chanel glasses, Dior perfume and a meal at a posh Italian restaurant. She was very grateful and she always thanks me saying 'you're so nice' and 'love ya'.
So in some ways our relationship is great, but it desperately want to kiss her, hug her and tell her how much I love her. The problem is she is very hot and tends to sleep with a lot of good looking guys at party's and stuff which makes me feel so depressed and down. This happened recently and I was tweeting sad faces. She messaged me numerous times asking what was wrong but I just can't tell her how I feel because I don't want to ruin our friendship but then again i don't know how much longer I can cope without telling her..
I am so grateful that for someone as amazing as her she makes a lot of effort with me to talk and spend time with but I know that I am way out of her league to have a relationship with.
I'd be so thankful if anyone could give me some advice or thoughts.
Thanks
I am a 16 year old boy. I'm fairly emotional and a little overweight. I'm by no means popular but my bestest friend ever is the most beautiful girl in the world. We're really close and I spend a lot of time with her. She's funny confident and absolutely stunning.
Our close friendship over the past years has led me to develop feelings for her. There's not a minute that goes by when I don't think about her, literally. I look on her Facebook, Twitter and Instagram profile like every hour just to see what she's up to and most of the time nothing's changed from the last time I looked. This has become an automatic check I do everyday on my phone and it's quite worrying because I start to search her username in these apps without even realising.
For her 16th birthday I recently bought her a £95 Tiffany necklace, some bath bombs and an iTunes vouched as well as Chanel glasses, Dior perfume and a meal at a posh Italian restaurant. She was very grateful and she always thanks me saying 'you're so nice' and 'love ya'.
So in some ways our relationship is great, but it desperately want to kiss her, hug her and tell her how much I love her. The problem is she is very hot and tends to sleep with a lot of good looking guys at party's and stuff which makes me feel so depressed and down. This happened recently and I was tweeting sad faces. She messaged me numerous times asking what was wrong but I just can't tell her how I feel because I don't want to ruin our friendship but then again i don't know how much longer I can cope without telling her..
I am so grateful that for someone as amazing as her she makes a lot of effort with me to talk and spend time with but I know that I am way out of her league to have a relationship with.
I'd be so thankful if anyone could give me some advice or thoughts.
Thanks
Answers
I'm 15 and if I were you I would be a bit more strategic than you are being. It's obvious you're starting to obsess about her a little so you need to cool that down a little bit. Limit checking your facebook, twitter etc to twice per day and don't search her. Make that a rule. Secondly find things to do which don't involve her, even if they are solo things or better...
22:57 Sun 04th Aug 2013
You are both very young, and in some respects immature. However, her "sleeping around" may well be just a "growing up" phase she is going through (and there's nothing wrong with that in today's social climate) which will one day lose its appeal. She then MAY turn to you for a more meaningful relationship, or there again she may not. But she's far too young to lock into a permanent relationship at present, as are you, so don't waste your youth in fruitless yearning. You should really stop being so obsessed with her and try to broaden your horizons by taking the advice in Sharingan's first response. Good luck, whatever course you take, and I hope your life takes a turn for the better in the future.
Only joined up to AB a minute before the first and only post.
"For her 16th birthday I recently bought her a £95 Tiffany necklace, some bath bombs and an iTunes vouched as well as Chanel glasses, Dior perfume and a meal at a posh Italian restaurant"
Yeah right, a 16 year old boy does this for a 'best friend'.
"For her 16th birthday I recently bought her a £95 Tiffany necklace, some bath bombs and an iTunes vouched as well as Chanel glasses, Dior perfume and a meal at a posh Italian restaurant"
Yeah right, a 16 year old boy does this for a 'best friend'.