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[goodgrl]

ok i have a problem saturday night i went out didnt drink to much but i am convinced something got in my drink bcoz i woke up the next day in some fellas bed not remembering a thing although i am on the pill i have vomited a few times last week do you think that i should get the morning after???

[chimney]

Go to the hospital take a pregnancy test, and a toxicity test, and an STI test and if the toxicity test comes back with Rohypnol, GHB or Ketamine or anything like that get Police help and take the scumbag down. It makes him a rapist and is a danger to every other woman.

[smudge]

It's a shame you didn't go to the police as soon as you realised what 'might' have happened the night before. This would have enabled them to do a DNA smear test, if need be & for future reference.

However, I'd pop along for a chat with your GP - I'm sure he/she would be the best one to give you advise.

Good luck.

[smudge]

*advice

[Miss Zippy]

Firstly, the most important thing is to ensure that you do become pregnant due to this incident. If you were sick last week, then your body's absorption of the pill will be impeded meaning you may not be protected against pregnancy at the moment. Therefore, you should most certainly go and get the morning after pill (despite the name, you can actually take it up to 3 days after unprotected sex, so you're not too late). Most pharmacies will provide you with the morning after pill so you do not even have to see your GP. Regarding your other allegations, please discuss this with a rape counsellor or your GP (sorry for sounding offhand but I'm in a rush but really wanted to reply to you re. morning after pill).

[Ward-Minter]

Not that I am a rapist, but from a highly intellectual mind and that of a criminal interpreter, I doubt if a "potential rapist" would entertain the action in his own bed.

Further, without being too base, if you were knocked out by a "date rape" drug, I imagine the body would not lubricate itself. Therefore, in the absence of atificial lubrication, i would envisage some tenderness "downstairs" if you know what I mean.

Not being a doubting Thomas, are you sure you didn't drink a little more than you suggested. Maybe on an empty stomach?

Just a point of law though if you think something may have happenned sexually, it does not matter if you were "knocked out" by a drug. Drink or merely being asleep would be enough for the rapist not to have realised true consent was given.

[teag1rl]

Goodgirl

I wouldn't assume you were drugged, I've discovered alcohol related memory loss is very unpredictable and I sometimes need very little to have no recollection of night before-and that's not say I was out of control the night before, just that I don't remember it. Anyway, that's just me, and I'm not saying you are likely to be the same-just letting you know it is possible to forget and not be absolutley hammered.

Definitely take the morning after pill though and follow advice above.I hope everything is OK.

[Eels]

I can only echo what has already been said. Get the morning after pill from the chemist, but make an appointment with your GP and explain everything to them. I imagine they'll suggest you have some tests done to make sure you haven't contracted any nasties from him.

[spaced]

change your name from goodgrl to badgrl. As my partner has been in the same situation, you should have gone to the hospital as soon as you woke up.

At my graduation do, my partner and all my friends went out. The night ended with my wife to be spending the night in hospital as someone had spiked her drink. Luckily I was there, otherwise god only knows what might have happened.