What should I do about my relationship???

[happi_red]

I have been with my partner for six years. Last summer we were supposed to buy a house together, we got a mortgage sorted and had been looking and then he met me for lunch one day and told me he was a buying a place with his mate instead and the paperwork was signed. Needless to say, I was miffed. Anyways after many weeks of misery I decided to take him back. However, now I don't think we have a future, all he talks about is is work and money and he has already said he will never buy a house (he lives in an apartment). He also made comments about living in his current place for five or six years. I don't see why I should wait for a commitment from him. I have had interest off other people, but feel too guilty to do anything about it. I just can't seem to finish with my boyfriend as I still have strong feelings for him! WHAT CAN I DO????? This is driving me CRZAY!!!!!!!

[hal]

I don't see why you should wait for commitment from him either. He has let you down, treated you badly and seems to offer nothing to you. Time to move on - ditch him and get someone who will treat you properly.

[laurence2]

happi, i agree with hal, the man seems to be playing you, or maybe its his way of politely getting rid of you, get rid of him

[4getmenot]

I got told last week from my bloke he'd never live with me. Ask him outright if you have a future, if not get rid of him. Dont waste your time on him. He just sounds like he wants all the perks and non of the commitment. What ever you decide, be happy :-)

[Miss Zippy]

You're not going to get commitment from him, not now, not next year and not in five years' time. Look at his actions and listen to what he is telling you ("I will never buy a house") - you're not 'his one'; he doesn't see a future with you. Sorry to sound so harsh, but you need to move on and find someone who wants the same as you.

[4getmenot]

And surely he should be the one feeling guilty. Try these other guys out that are paying interest in you. If he truly loves you he will come running back.

[Drisgirl]

Where is your pride hun?

Supposing you are deeply hurt inside stick your nose and your middle finger in the air.You think you have strong feelings for him but effectively you are frightened to start again on your own.Who wouldnt be if they cared-he wouldnt because he doesnt care.

Life is way too short - its not a practice.

Hope you find the courage to diss him:)

[sammd]

Hey happi_red, i've been in a similar situation. I agree the best thing is to sit down with him and ask where you stand with regards to your future. I know it's hard to split up with someone when you have feelings for them and you'll be down for a while afterwards but in the long run you'll be glad you did it coz you'll find someone much better than him and be a million times more happy than you are now :o)

[Eels]

Trial separation, definitely. Gives you time to come to terms with what's to come, gives him a wake up call in case he's going to realise the error of his ways, and makes it much easier to go your separate ways after your specified time is up.

Don't be left trailing in the wake of an inconsiderate, insensitive, commitment-phobic pratt.

[Bluemukka]

I think he is being an absolute wimp. He is dumping you without actually having the boll**ks to do the decent thing and tell you straight that you have no future together.

He is deadwood and the sooner you ditch him the quicker the both of you can get on with the rest of your lives.

[nfn]

3 easy steps.

1 dump him
2 feel lousy and cry for a bit
3 get someone who will truly love, appreciate and put you first.

Good luck happi, your name says it all - you deserve to be happy. Ditch the git!

[Minxie]

Hi happi, you were with him for 6 years, mortgage sorted, then he goes and buys a place with his mate!

Get rid of him. You have no reason to feel guilty about anything. Think about yourself. He is obviously just thinking about HIM!

Good luck x

[arliebarlie]

love you have to live your life by the following motto - dont take no **** off anyone. Bin this loser ASAP.

[nfn]

I expect he will try to justify this as either an investment or business move! either way my 3 steps above still stand!

[Hgrove]

I read a book that explained a lot of things to me but the title says it all: "he's just not that into you!"

[happi_red]

nfn, that is exactly what he did!!! All about money blah blah blah. Thanks to everyone who replied. I think it's kind of apparent I need to leave him! Just got get the ******** to do it now! Thanks again, feel much better to know that dumping him is not unfair.

[Spcl22]

I have to agree with nfn's reply.... that is THE BEST advice ever! Just done it myself , still on stage 2....but it was the right thing to do)....go on...Be strong and know your worth. : )

[nfn]

happy to help. good luck peeps, it's hard now but it does get better!