i'm so depressed :(

[Nat13]

hi, im 15 and went to Spain last week on a school trip to go skiing. While over there some friends and myself met some boys, the boy i met, Andy, was really lovely, he'd hug me and i got little kisses off him. All my friends agreed that he liked me and he told one of my friends that he did. He gave me his number and we arranged to see eachother this sunday. I also got his MSN so we could talk on there as well. Even when he went home i called him and he said to me 'luv you' and sh!t like that! So i really thought he liked me, anyway, tonight i went on MSN and he was so horrible to me, he was saying i was a 'tw@t, and that he never did want to meet up with me again.' Also my dog just died and he said to me 'by the way, my dog says woof woof because he's still alive.' He was so lovely to me, i got text messages from him everyday after he left Spain and tonight he completly changed! I haven't done anything to him and i don't understand why he's being so horrible. I asked him what the f**k was the matter with him and he replied with i've met fitter girls! I really really liked him and i don't know why he has changed so much in just over a day!!

Can anybody help????

xx nat xx

[Drisgirl]

Its not what you want to hear darling - but DONT get in touch with him again.It will be painful but -I'm sorry to say it is part of 'growing up'.In fact its gut wrenching but go out with your pals and enjoy your teenage years.

My daughter went through the same thing (Ibiza) but within weeks she was on her way.You will be fine -put it behind you as one of your first adult experiences.Good Luck hunxxx

[gill3891]

Hi Nat,

Listen, my guess is that this guy is either around his friends and is trying to be 'funny' infront of them or it's not actuallu him and it's his brother or friend being idiots! The best thing to do in my opinion, would be to take the moral high ground, ask him calmly why he's being like this with you and that you thought you could be friends with him, and if he continues being an idiot, then simply walk away!

I knwo it's easy enough to say and harder to do but you sound like a lovely girl, who likes many people and at the end of the day, you don't need someone like that in your life! If thats the way that he's being with you, then ditch him and I bet a much nicer guy will be waiting for you around the corner!

Keep your chin up and if he's continuing being like this then you can do better! Hope this helps! xx

[mindimplode]

I was a young boy once. Young boys think that being rude to girls is the coolest thing possible. The more rude = the more cool.

I now know that the more rude = the less cool. Ask anybody, I mean you already know surely?

There is an old saying 'Boys will be boys'. This basically translates to Boys are idiots. Don't worry about this - in 5 years time you will look back on this and think what an total *******. If anyone behaves like this when they are in thair 20's they are considered a weirdo. And first and foremost go out, meet new male friends and don't take offence to ALL men forever - we do get a bit better. lol

[Supernick]

I'm thinking like gill here. Such a dramatic turnaround seems to me to suggest that there is a definite possibility that he didn't send those messages. I'd follow that line of thought, and if it definitely is him then walk away with your head held high.

[Ethmer]

Call him on the telephone and find out it that was really him on MSN with you.

If it wasn't then you know not to trust what you see on MSN. If it was then you now know the true way he is and you should be thankful you found out so early in the relationship.

In any event, don't give up on boys just because of one or two bad experiences. There are a lot of cool guys out there for you to meet but you do have to wind your way through a few bad apples now and then.

[emmabee123]

I t could be someone else on msn pretending to be him, but if you are sure it was him, then don't waste your precious time on him honey, cos he clearly isn't worth it.I know its heartbreaking cos he seemed so nice and that.

HTH

emma.x

[sammd]

I reckon he was with his friends and was trying to look cool in front of them. Not many blokes would admit all the soppy stuff to their mates at that age. If you want to you could try talking to him again another time to check if it was just coz his mates were there, or you could try texting him and see what his reply is like, that way you know its him replying. It could however just be that he's a boy!

[Nat13]

it really was him, and i also found out that he asked out one of my mates and she said yes! so hes just a tw@t and i'm not going to have anything to do with him!!

[alijangra]

Your so called mate is obviously a tw@t too if she agreed to go out with him! That is not the kind of friend you need. Get rid of both of them!!

[ceecee15]

The guy is an idiot. I bet you are too good for him and he knew that so he dumped you first. It'll be tough but you'll get over it and find a great guy when you least expect to.

[dancealot13]

Hey, I gotta point this out!! Maybe it wasn't him that was talking, maybe it was a friend, sister, or cousin. That sounds very odd that his entire demenour would change. Honestly maybe it wasnt him typing? Ask him something only you and him would know and see if he can answer it. But if you know it was him,...then just get rid of the guy! Yuk! You don't ever want to waist your time with a guy, there are simply to many cute boys out there to deal with the bad ones.