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Friends Being Strange
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Ok so me and my husband had a couple who we did everything with! We even went in holiday together with our little families! Recently we went to Disney Paris and had a great time! When we came back our friends started being a bit distant and we realised that they were getting on really well with their neighbours so we decided to leave them for a bit to get to know them! We decided we were going to set up a couple of our mutual friends on a date and went out clubbing with them. On the Sunday we had a message on Facebook saying where was our invite from our friends. We didn't think anything of it but I think we upset them. Recently my best friends sister had a baby early and it's dying so I've been messaging her with love and support and hoping everything was ok but not getting a response. She phoned me on fri asking if we could have her 3 children for the wkend so they could go and be with her sister. We have 2 children of our own and had plans all wkend however we said we could have them all day sat and could drop them off to whoever could take over but as we had plans we couldn't have them to stay over! The next day my husbands mate deleted us both off of Facebook and is not responding to any messages! What have we done wrong I don't understand. Can anyone help? I feel really upset and so is my hubby!
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Forget the Facebook issue, now is the time for pen and paper and tell them what you just told us. " We love you to bits and if in some way we have let you down, please tell us how to make amends" or words to that effect. It seems you want this resolving and in my opinion a letter is preferable any day to an electronic message.
11:26 Wed 30th Oct 2013
I agree with mamya- one card to say you're thinking of them, sorry if they feel let down and you are there if they need you. Let them know you're looking forward to hearing from them and leave it at that. They are having a hard time and i presume any family is also involved with the sick baby too. Good luck. I hope it works out for you.
Hi skids...sit back and take time out from this. . Have you really been there for them when they have needed you? True friends would always be there no matter what and it's a two way thing. . If you help a good friend and they can't reciprocate then they are no friend. Hope you sorrt this out one way or the other.
i think the answer here is very dependent on what exactly you refused to postpone or rearrange.
we cannot tell you what we think without all facts
it may seem like it doesn't matter, but if you had a night at the bingo or something instead of taking their kids then i would imagine the advice given will be different.
clearly it was something you felt you absolutely could not rearrange - and they clearly feel that you should have ..
do they know why you didnt cancel?
we cannot tell you what we think without all facts
it may seem like it doesn't matter, but if you had a night at the bingo or something instead of taking their kids then i would imagine the advice given will be different.
clearly it was something you felt you absolutely could not rearrange - and they clearly feel that you should have ..
do they know why you didnt cancel?
send the card, skids, then leave it. Stop messaging them, they'll know you are there if it's important to them. Frankly, just at the moment, I suspect that the family tragedy is far more important to them than friends who keep badgering them for reassurance. One card, then leave it. If they don't get in touch, then so be it. It's their call.
