what would you do if the women that you love might be pregant by another man???

[dorkguytx]

well i am not going out with this girl but we have had somthing good going on for the past 4years i have never had sex with her and she was a virgin up to the point were some guy slipd her a pill and there is a posibilty that she might be pregnant by that guy and i am truly crazy about this girl i forgave her for what she did and we are ok now just that she might be pregnant and im not going to stop talking to her for that reason i still love her and i plan on getting with her now and taking full responsabilty for the child but that is if she is pregnant witch i pray that she is not but i am going to keep loving her even if she is. what do u all think i should do???

[gessoo]

I have left answers on your other thread. xx

[dancealot13]

Love can be so difficult at times. Questions for you to think about first -Why hasn't anything happened between you both in the past 4 years?, and Are you sure she feels the same way about you?, Is she the type of girl that would use you simply because she wants you around or she's afraid to be alone?

I do think you should be there for her to support her and love her,-but don't act to quickly to take responsibility #1-for a child that isn't yours, and #2 with a girl that you never TRULY have been with.

Watch out for yourself sweetie. She may be the girl for you, but remember love can be very blinding, and you may not see that untill its too late.

[tigilou]

I think that is a really really lovely thing to do poor girl think how she must be feeling at the moment and for you to be as suportive as you have you deserve a big medal i think. If she is worth fighting for go for it mate and don't look back. I wish you all the very best xxx

[Morrisonker]

You've forgiven her? For being date raped? I think you seriously need to re-examine your feelings there, or prehaps think of a better word because if you see her being raped as her fault...I can't begin to start saying why that's bad.

Personally I'd ask her if she wants your help before charging in being gallent. She might not be pregnant, even if she is, she might terminate the pregnancy. I wouldn't promise to support her and her child if you don't have any official commitment to her. Offer to stick by her as a friend and be there if she needs you. It's the best you can do right now.

[WendyS]

Your motives are very well meaning but do try and face the reality that she went out with somebody else and although you say you've had something good going with this relationships for four years, why didn't you ask her out earlier. If she is pregnant I think you need to think very deeply before agreeing to take responsiblity for this child. She will need to get a DNA test and ensure the father accepts some financial responsibility, as well as considering talking to the police if she was raped. Support her with your friendship by all means, but I suspect you are still quite young and you need to ask yourself a lot of serious questions about how your life would be defined if you accepted responsibility for another man's child. Also her feelings for you may not be as strong as your are for her and you might just end up being use to rescue her from a difficult situation. Dancealot is absolutely right to caution you to proceed slowly in this. What do you parents think? I hope you have a close enough relationship to be able to talk it over with them.

[pinkflamingo]

my daughhter was in the same situation 2 years ago, her boyfriend stayed with her knowing the baby wasnt his. they are still together and i have a brilliant grandson who is loved equally by his mum and dad.

good luck to you both

[shazbang]

Seriously, i agree with tigilou. Who do you think you are? you 'forgave' her? this poor girl, by the sound of it, was date raped (and was a virgin at the time) and now might be pregnant by the scumbag who did it to her. You say you're not even going out with her but yet you 'forgave' her. I can't believe what I'm reading.