My Husband Is Driving Me Nuts

[Wendywoo52]

My oh has a few health issues. He has diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, copd, glaucoma and is slightly deaf. He is driving me nuts!!! He gets up in a morning and sits in his chair all day on his laptop with the television blaring out. He is very bad tempered and I am scared to ask him to turn it down in case he has a tantrum. The only thing he does in the house is the washing up after dinner. He never helps cook clean , wash iron vacuum or even make a cup of coffee . He wont go shopping because " he hates it" he wont go out for a meal or a drink because he says everything is too expensive he wont even let me buy a take away! He has always been quite controlling IF I argue with him about anything he just says well you know where the door is! He wont discuss anything and if I say anything to upset him he stops talking to me completely and this can go on for weeks. I find that very upsetting which is why I agree to most everything he says. He hates Christmas and has nothing to do with his own children ( we have both been married before) as "they are a waste of space and thoughtless! " We have been married 25years and he has always been like this to a degree (not helping etc) but when we were both working I could cope. Now we are both retired and at home all day we seem to be OK for a couple of weeks then he has another tantrum over something. Today it was because I asked him to help me reach the tree down and he said there was no need for the tree until Christmas Eve if at all as their is only us who will see it (my children live 100 miles away and do not come because he is not sociable with them and just continues on his laptop or watching tv. so they prefer me to go to them)
Do you think his illnesses are making him worse? Or do you think it is just age ? He is 70 but I am 10years younger. I just don't know what to do anymore. I just needed to off load and have no-one I can do it too. I cannot tell my family and we do not have any friends.

[scorpiojo]

Hi Wendy, hope you are well. Just wanted to say happy Christmas and have a good New Year x

[Wendywoo52]

Thankyou Scorpiojo I hope you have a Happy Christmas too.

[grasscarp]

There are lots of people stuck in situations that are far from easy to solve and housing and the financial situation make it hard to know what to do for the best. I too am in sixties and with an unwell difficult older husband. I just do what I want enough of the time that it doesn't get to me.

[ladybirder]

I think when there is more bad than good on a regular basis it's time to part.

Only one life and it's too short to be miserable when you can do something about it.