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Thank you to everyone who responded to my thread about my little grandson not hearing properly.
Sadly the little man passed away yesterday, suspected cot death. He was only 4 months old. As you can imagine we are all devastated and my daughter is inconsolable.
Sadly the little man passed away yesterday, suspected cot death. He was only 4 months old. As you can imagine we are all devastated and my daughter is inconsolable.
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So, so sad. Condolences to all the family. From experience, the pain does ease but the memories never fade. This might help - if not now, today, then maybe in the future:
"I'll lend you for a little time a child of mine," He said.
"For you to love the while he lives and mourn for when he's dead.
It may be six or seven years, or twenty-two or three,
But will you, till I call him back, take care of him for me?
He'll bring his charms to gladden you, and should his stay be brief,
You'll have his lovely memories as solace for your grief."
"I cannot promise he will stay; since all from earth return,
But there are lessons taught down there I want this child to learn.
I've looked the wide world over in My search for teachers true
And from the throngs that crowd life's lanes I have chosen you.
Now will you give him all your love, not think the labor vain,
Nor hate Me when I come to call to take him back again?"
"I fancied that I heard them say, "Dear Lord, Thy will be done!
For all the joy Thy child shall bring, the risk of grief we run.
We'll shelter him with tenderness, we'll love him while we may,
And for the happiness we've known, forever grateful stay;
But should the angels call for him much sooner than we've planned,
We'll brave the bitter grief that comes and try to understand!"
"I'll lend you for a little time a child of mine," He said.
"For you to love the while he lives and mourn for when he's dead.
It may be six or seven years, or twenty-two or three,
But will you, till I call him back, take care of him for me?
He'll bring his charms to gladden you, and should his stay be brief,
You'll have his lovely memories as solace for your grief."
"I cannot promise he will stay; since all from earth return,
But there are lessons taught down there I want this child to learn.
I've looked the wide world over in My search for teachers true
And from the throngs that crowd life's lanes I have chosen you.
Now will you give him all your love, not think the labor vain,
Nor hate Me when I come to call to take him back again?"
"I fancied that I heard them say, "Dear Lord, Thy will be done!
For all the joy Thy child shall bring, the risk of grief we run.
We'll shelter him with tenderness, we'll love him while we may,
And for the happiness we've known, forever grateful stay;
But should the angels call for him much sooner than we've planned,
We'll brave the bitter grief that comes and try to understand!"
SMP, so sorry to hear of you family's loss, it seems incredibly hard to deal with right now but it will get better.
My wife and I have lost two children and it is truly devastating for the parents to deal with but talking to my parents, it was almost more difficult for them. Not only were they dealing with the loss of a grandchild but they had to seal with the effects on their child. They really didn't know what to do when our son died. I know my dad still has issues dealing with the losses but like many of his generation he's unable to talk about it. In situations like this Grandparents are often forgotten in the grief.
From someone who's been there twice too often, be there for your daughter and her husband, your strength will help them get through the initial struggles. I'd strongly encourage you all to talk about what's happened as soon as you feel able, find solace within your family group if not close friends. There are bereavement councillors out there who can help but the best help will be yourselves.
It's also important that if you need to talk to someone, you do it quickly and don't bottle anything up.
I hope everything gets better for you all soon
My wife and I have lost two children and it is truly devastating for the parents to deal with but talking to my parents, it was almost more difficult for them. Not only were they dealing with the loss of a grandchild but they had to seal with the effects on their child. They really didn't know what to do when our son died. I know my dad still has issues dealing with the losses but like many of his generation he's unable to talk about it. In situations like this Grandparents are often forgotten in the grief.
From someone who's been there twice too often, be there for your daughter and her husband, your strength will help them get through the initial struggles. I'd strongly encourage you all to talk about what's happened as soon as you feel able, find solace within your family group if not close friends. There are bereavement councillors out there who can help but the best help will be yourselves.
It's also important that if you need to talk to someone, you do it quickly and don't bottle anything up.
I hope everything gets better for you all soon
