Well, that was a proper Listener and no mistake.
When I first visited this site, some few years back, there was a lot more in the way of little nudges, by no means explicit, but enough to give an encouraging hand. One or two contributors would spell out too much, but they were rapidly chastised and have generally stopped contributing. However, in recent years, this site has often become a board for smugly saying "I finished in less time than anyone else. Brilliant Puzzle. Wow. But don't let on to anyone". Apart from stroking the ego of the poster, this doesn't really add much.
I would like to think the friendly nudge is acceptable, and available here. After all, many of the winners turn out to be couples, and I presume they give each other such nudges. Does no one here ask anyone else for help, or are we ascetic purists in our cells (my stick insects are not much help, I'm afraid)? The problem is inherent in the internet, in that what may seem like a quiet word in a shell-like actually turns out to be a scream audible by the entire population of the planet. But what is worse is the shocked responder who in turn screams "OMG - he's just revealed to the world the secret key to everything", when no one really would have noticed.
All I really ask for is that posters show consideration at all points, both for those who want help, and those who don't.