Sad News

[slinky.kate]

my friend just phoned me and told me her ex-husband passed away,what are you supposed to say at a time like this,i felt so bad for her.

[ummmm]

You say you're sorry and offer to be there for her if she wants to talk.

[Mamyalynne]

There are no right or wrong words Kate, just be the friend you are and always have been.

[slinky.kate]

I told her if she needs anything to phone me and I will send one of my boys over,i will get her a nice card though.

[ummmm]

That's all you can do. Did he remarry?

[slinky.kate]

no, he didn't ummm,they only started really speaking to each other again a few years ago,(friend got remarried,but her hubby died 12 years ago)

[marval]

I agree all you can do it let her know you are there for her. It is at a time like this that a good friend can be a great help.

[boxtops]

I agree with the others - it's still a loss of a close person.

[HansUrbancka]

It is sad news when anyone dies. Was your friend upset or merely telling you as a factual piece of news.?

Anyway, ignore my question and you follow the advice which other ABers have given to you. It's an old saying but a true one.......A friend in need is a friend indeed.

Hans.

[ummmm]

If you hold affection for someone then death is always going to be sad.

[ethandron]

About 25 years ago, the mum of one of my sons friends turned up at the school gates in bits because the same thing had happened to her. He was the father of two of her three children and although she had remarried and had another child it didn't matter, she was terribly upset. I brought her back to my house and she had a good winge and talked about him over numerous cups of coffee...that's all you can do, listen. You don't need to say anything, just listen.