Please Answer My Question?

[AngelNicole]

If you were treated with no respect at all because of you were not the most attractive, how would you deal with it? I am a 32 year old female, and because I am not the most attractive, I am not treated with much respect at all from people. The majority of the time when I go out some place like the grocery store, out to eat with relatives, no matter where it is, I am often laughed at and called ugly, get doors slammed in my face, have people make very rude sarcastic remarks towards me. For example, I was inside of a Little Caesars Restaurant when there were 2 guys looking and pointing at me laughing, talking very loudly inside of the restaurant about "ugly" I am. These guys look to be in their late 20's or early 30's. They don't even know me. It's like society hates you if are not attractive and thinks you are not worthy of respect. Because I often deal with people like this when I go out, I have started living like a Hermit because I just don't want to be around people like this. I don't go out any place unless I really have to. If you were me, would you do if you were in my shoes? Honest answers please. And thanks a lot for taking the time to read this and respond.

[jomifl]

Keyplus, I like that ..

[jomifl]

@rseholes are necessary but what comes out of them is best ignored.

[modeller]

keyplus / You are what you are and they are what they are.//

That's a typical theist cop out ! You are in effect saying they are evil but as Jesus supposedly said " They know not what they do ."
So that's all right then ! Just roll over and let evil thrive . As surely it will if we all take your advice.

[Khandro]

modeller //Just roll over and let evil thrive// Who sed dat?

[modeller]

khandro Mahatma Gandhi ? An interesting choice ? Did it work ?
The whole of India was plunged into civil war , millions have died and the country was split into two , four if you include Khashmir. And today there is still no proper peace between them. And why ? Religion !
You can not compromise with evil . Rolling over , forgiving or doing nothing does not work !

[Khandro]

modeller; You are a bit confused and should brush up on history before condemning Gandhi; he did not 'plunge India into civil war', far from it, he supported the Home Rule movement, and became leader of the Indian National Congress, advocating a policy of non-violent non-co-operation to achieve independence. His goal was to help poor farmers and labourers protest oppressive taxation and discrimination. He struggled to alleviate poverty, liberate women and put an end to caste discrimination, with the ultimate objective of the withdrawal of the British and self-rule for India, all without the violence you seem to advocate.
He was deeply opposed to partition, and was assassinated by a fanatic.

[modeller]

Did I say Gandhi brought them into war ?

[keyplus90]

Modeller's response usually depends on who said it, instead of what he/she actually said.

[modeller]

keyplus Don't you think that is important ? In fact it is crucial to its credibility .

[Old_Geezer]

I'd try not to be bothered by the things I can not change. How I look is how I look. I'm sure one can spend ages making the most of what one has if one thinks it worthwhile but must not go overboard nor fret about what I am not.

I find it difficult to understand why a lack of respect would stem purely from looks. Do you not feel confident maybe and exude an atmosphere of unworthiness maybe ? If so anything that builds your confidence and thus encourages folk to accept you as important would help you.

Apart from that you seem to be associating with or meeting folk with personality problems. Maybe you need to change the places you go, the folk you see.

Remember you are only assured on one life and should make the most of it. Not regret years of hiding away and missing out on experiences. Go find some new groups to join and meet decent folk who will like you for who you are.

[whiskeryron]

AngelNicole, you are far from ugly, you cannot possibly be ugly you are made in the image of god, how dare anyone call you ugly,for anyone to suggest that you are is calling god almighty ugly. Wherever you are please remember what I am telling you & walk tall with your head held high.

Ron.♥♥

[modeller]

Angel It may not be a great consolation but ' looks ' become less and less important with every year that passes. Just look at all the Miss Worlds
ten years after their crowning . They have to spends thousands in a vain attempt to recover their lost beauty. Believe me time is on your side .The only thing that really matters is good health.

[modeller]

whiskeryron Sorry but I don't understand what you are talking about . You don't know what god looks like ! So the term in his image is meaningless. As is the term ugly . If god exists and made us all ( living organisms ) then IMO our attributes are equal in all respects to him. I was going to say 'in his eyes ' but that would be a human assumption . ' In his/ its consciousness' would IMO be more accurate.
I would add the term beauty or ugly is a human concept which is different for everyone of us , in every society , and in every age. So we cant equate god with our transitory changing values.

Angel good luck to you I wonder why your answer has been removed ??

[glenbar]

I think you will find it happens to most people so don't be too worried about it. If you look around you when out and about you will find it hard to pick out anyone who is really what todays shallow society would call beautiful. Everyone is different and beauty is as they say "is in the eye of the beholder" What pleases one person wont please everyone and these people you mention are not worth your attention. Just smile and ignore them. Good luck.