Eddie, you're making it sound as though there may not be a choice. There is ALWAYS a choice- and it depends entirely on what mic and jeza want. It is possible to have live-in carers, district nurses etc at home and if the problem is violence- that is not something carers are supposed to deal with, either singly or in pairs (although we do). That is where doctors and psychogeriatricians come in. There is nothing a nursing or care home can do, that cannot be done at home, if required.